I need your input please

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Registered: 03-22-2005
I need your input please
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Tue, 03-22-2005 - 3:01pm


I'm new here. I may be posting this in the wrong board. If thats the case , sorry. But I thought some of you may have gone thru something similar or knows someone else who has.

I am really confused about myself. I am female, but I think I look masculine, like a guy. I think many people probably think I'm a dyke... but I'm not. I'm attracted to guys but they never see me as girlfriend/dating material. I have always been a 'tomboy' but I never outgrew liking doing guy things or prefering to dress in jeans and T-shirts. I feel uncomfortable in dressy clothes and felt like a drag queen the few times I have worn a dress and make-up.

I was never attracted to women until about a year ago when I met this one girl who I felt this attraction to. Later I found out that she is a lesbian. We became friends but nothing more. Ever since meeting her, I find myself looking at women differently. I sometimes find myself fantisizing or thinking about women in a sexual way. I guess maybe now I'm bi-curious.?

Sometimes I feel like maybe I'm a guy trapped in a womans body, but other times I feel like a woman who doesnt know how to "be" a woman. Obviously I dont want to get a sex change, but I want to understand my mixed up feelings and androgenous look.
I've tried therapy but the doc didnt seem to understand how much this issue is messing with my thoughts and self image.

Can anyone here give me any advice at all. I am really confused.

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 3:26pm

Now I am NO expert here LOL..

 *Hugs ~  Caly

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Registered: 01-23-2005
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 9:22pm

Nice to meet ya,

 

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 10:22pm

Hi there Idontknowme.

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Registered: 02-04-2005
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 12:08am
Hi and welcome. I think you can get alot from this board. So don't be shy. Well I guess you aren't since you already posted.
You are who you are... all of the other's have made very good points so far. I would hate to be repetative.
We will be happy to support you and give you feedback if/when you want it.
This is actually a very diverse board and I think you will like it here.
I love you name, I hope you can become comfortable with who you are and descover yourself more. Just remember you are special as a person just like everyone else is, no matter how you dress or who you are attracted to.
I hope we see more of you around here.
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