Your Opinion Please?

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Your Opinion Please?
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Thu, 04-14-2005 - 10:02am

I really really would encourage you to let the therapist know you've been pushed out of the picture but that you need to be informed for your own peace of mind.

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Thu, 04-14-2005 - 10:36am

(((((((Cat)))))))


That's a hard question.

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Thu, 04-14-2005 - 11:07am

I agree with Pam. As a mother I would want to call too, and I can't think of any harm it would do. Even if he can't share anything specific, I personally would at least make the effort as a mother to try to find out how my child is doing. I know this must be excruciatingly painful. (((((((((Cat))))))))


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Thu, 04-14-2005 - 2:06pm

Well, Cat, in my humble opinion, if I were a mom, and if I was going through with you are going through, I would still try to keep up on his appointments, that way the doctor can let your son know that, you still care about him, and as a parent, you do care about him.

Hold on, hon, it does get better.




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Thu, 04-14-2005 - 2:36pm
Lee,
I would certainly call the therapist. It is possible that your EX has told him some story and told him not to inform you. Maybe he needs to hear your side to help son.
Yes, call him, it is easier for a counselor to help when they know what is going on in all parts of the person's life. It will help him put things together better when talking to son.
Hope you get all the help you need here and already you have some good oppinions.
Know this, I do pray and I will keep all of you in my prayers.
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Thu, 04-14-2005 - 5:54pm

Cat,


My opinion is to do whatever it takes to get the information that you need and to have access to your son.

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Fri, 04-15-2005 - 1:51am

Cat, I can only imagine the angst that fills you right now with this situation - but, as Nony and Pam have said, I really do think that this will pass and that things will settle somewhat given time.


If it were me in your shoes, I'd ring the therapist, Cat. I'd tell him that I understood he was in an awkward position, and that what your son told him is confidential...but tell him that you need, somehow, to know that your son is ok and in one piece, that he's still attending his sessions. Maybe if the therapist is clear about this then he won't have reservations calling you.


I'm sending you the biggest of hugs, Cat...you don't deserve all this. You really don't.


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Fri, 04-15-2005 - 6:50am
I agree with all and since he is a minor and you are his mother you do have some rights to information.

 *Hugs ~  Caly

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