So Friends what do you think?..
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So Friends what do you think?..
| Mon, 06-13-2005 - 10:48pm |
Here goes.. As a lot of you know things were progressing for my son and I with deep talks and getting closer and even visits..For awhile ..Was years before I could get that going...
Then the ex found out that my son and I shared conversations.. with things about (him ex) not being favorable but were brought to the front by my son..The info my son gave him(ex) about our conversations I have no idea how much..
Okay so now it's been what?.. about 2 months or a bit more since I have seen him (my Son)..
He told me the last time I talked to him (him being under ditress)that he didn't want to talk to me any more.. I truely believe it was as I said because

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I am sitting here reading posts to Sheila and ginny. We all believe that yes, you should go to your son's graduation. You can sit where you want to. (Do you need an invitation as some of them you do?)
We do believe that you should stay involved in your son's lives to show them that you do care.
I believe the EX would need some type of proof to not allow you to have any involve ment with son's, wouldn't he. I am not sure about that part. I hope someone else can advise you on that.
Your son's are close to being adults and will soon be able to do as they please so, hang in there and let them see for themselves that you did not abandon them, but that EX kept you at a distance.
I wish we could help better.
I hope that EX will not go to far. Have you asked your son's if it is true that they do not want to have anything to do with you?
I am sure ~S~ will have some ideas once you talk to her.
Please keep us posted.
big, big hugs,
Laurie
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C >^. A .
I think you should go to the graduation. Do it for yourself, Cat. Whether they see you or not, you will have BEEN there.
I believe your boys will be back in your life when they're able to step away from their Dad's life. That will take some time. They'll battle eachother, because that's what men do to their sons in the letting-go process. I see an anxiety in MY son as well. I almost took him into the doc for antidepressants too! But I'm coming to believe that this is probably common to the age, symptomatic of hormones and smart mouth humor and REALLY multiplied in the invisible battle with Dad!
But in the meantime, they KNOW their Mom loves them. No matter what other bull-hooey he sticks on to the picture, their Mother LOVES them. They know how to find you. They know you're interested. They'll be back in your life before you know it, hon. And you'll get to say, I saw you graduate. I was there. And such a lovely, proud day it will be for you, as well.
Send him a secret wish of congratulations from me while you're there ~
*many hugs* ~ Nony
I agree with Nony!
You need to go to that graduation, even if at this point they dont know you are there.
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Go to the graduation
Take lots of pics
GO!
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CAT,
Go to the graduation! You pushed him out into the world and have every right to be proud of him and watch him graduate. Later in life show him the photo's to prove you were there! Things will change over time. My step mom always reminded me that my real mom was always going to be just that. She said you have to love her no matter what. She was right, and no matter what, I always loved my real mom! My real mom didn't want to fight for me when my parents divorced. She asked only for my two sisters and it broke my heart. But, I still loved her. She went to my graduation and was out of sight and out of mind for me. She was proud of me from a distance. Later on we had the chance to go to dinner and hang out. She met my then girl friend and we had a great time together. In the last years of her life, it was me that she called to talk to for advice, and that meant the world to me. I finally was the child she wanted to be close to...that goes for you too Caly.....be the bigger person, your mom will see you be strong and will eventually be drawn to your strength.....hang tough!
As hard as it is now, it will be even more sweeter when the time is right for your sons to embrace you! Hang in there,
hugs
halo
hugs
halo
C >^. A .
*Sigh.. As you sa,y I do want to go Caly, but how do I know I will remain not seen? I do worry so about so much.. I truely was going to approach my Son and give him a (((Hug))) and a card with some money in it, but now I dunno.. I truely am beginning to more than dislike this Man(Ex)..
Thanks Hon.. Safe travels to you and Ting.
((((Hug)))) your son an extra one for me.. cause I may not get that chance with mine....
(((Hugs Hon)))
((((Hugs))))
C >^. A .
Am just wondering what ex can do ?.. I am not causing trouble.. I am not intending to.. But knowing the person he is then I remember all the stuff he has done and I do get leary..
This is so unfair!.. He is such a horrible person!.
Thanks (((Hon)))
((((Hugs))))
C >^. A .
That is sweet about you and your Mom.. I am glad it went that way for you both..
I know thy love me.. Halo.. I do.. But still I wonder, how did ex know I was writing son? Did son really just tell him? If so
C >^. A .
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