guess I can finally share....(long?)
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guess I can finally share....(long?)
| Sun, 06-26-2005 - 6:11pm |
guess I can finally share since my relationship is over....I couldn't come back and post while we were working things out,she saw a post here from me....that hurt her.Me asking advice....guess I shouldn't have asked here but I needed answers about my doubts and confusion so I did.....Those doubt weren't about her,they were about me.
well we had a great relationship....the only problems we had were her ex hounding to break us up and in the end the ex was what did break us up.If only things could have stayed great,but they didn't....I tried so hard at the end but when I thought she was cheating,she painted an on-line picture out of anger towards me that she was.We lost our trust and could not get it back again.I know we could have but we gave up before that happened.I have looked at the depression board,the self-esteem board and even the ADD board(she had ADD),to try and firgure out how we could have made it better,yet now it is the past.
Now I am going to those places to just recover and try and figure out my future.What I need to do differently in my future.
I tried to suggest couples counseling but she would have never done it.
There was a 10 year age gap and now I see maybe that mattered.
I did wrong,I was no saint.I've never been an angel,but I never tried to hurt her purposely.anyway just a vent for me.....no replies nesscary,just me trying to get it out and remeber what I did before her and I met.Thanks for letting me get it out and I'll be around the board some I hope to chat with you ladies,and share my opinions in the future.
Have a great one "j"
well we had a great relationship....the only problems we had were her ex hounding to break us up and in the end the ex was what did break us up.If only things could have stayed great,but they didn't....I tried so hard at the end but when I thought she was cheating,she painted an on-line picture out of anger towards me that she was.We lost our trust and could not get it back again.I know we could have but we gave up before that happened.I have looked at the depression board,the self-esteem board and even the ADD board(she had ADD),to try and firgure out how we could have made it better,yet now it is the past.
Now I am going to those places to just recover and try and figure out my future.What I need to do differently in my future.
I tried to suggest couples counseling but she would have never done it.
There was a 10 year age gap and now I see maybe that mattered.
I did wrong,I was no saint.I've never been an angel,but I never tried to hurt her purposely.anyway just a vent for me.....no replies nesscary,just me trying to get it out and remeber what I did before her and I met.Thanks for letting me get it out and I'll be around the board some I hope to chat with you ladies,and share my opinions in the future.
Have a great one "j"

There are things in life that hurt. Sometimes we do them, sometimes they happen to us... all we can expect of anyone is to learn, to strive... to work toward being a better person, to try and move on with the lessons incorporated. It seems you are well on your way with this.
We can never fully chase away the guilt of things, or even the hurt... but we can give it perspective, a means of filing it away where it does the most good and causes the least amount of damage.
A ten year gap is not necessarily a problem, it depends on what the ages are, the life experiences of those involved. An 18 year old with a 28 year old is a bigger gap than 34 and 44.
*hugs*
What's the use in regrets
They're just thing we haven't done yet
What are regrets?
They're just lessons we haven't learned yet
Pass In Time ~ Beth Orton
worlds undone
great bigs (((hugs))) J
The days will be hard, and the nights even more,
but soon, one morning you will rise with a new feeling
in your heart. You will begin to know how special you are,
and that you will find what your looking for,
when you least expect it.
Lea
With this ex,as with all my ex who I discovered had cheated there won't be fourth chances...there were a few to many to begin with. thank you for always being there for me....(((((hugs))))))J
I do like to think of what I did to protect myself as "damage control".There is only so much one person can take in the heartache department,I tried to tell her this yet I felt as if it was falling on deaf ears.......I have learned things from heartache and continue to do that this time as well....instead of making the same mistakes again,I hope this time I apply my lesson and actaully change my ways instead of just saying I will ,then forgetting it .......she was 21,I am 31.....thanks so much nelle,J
you are a good friend and a good person....yes I have found two awesome relationships when I was not looking and the best part is that they were best friends also ,not just girlfriends.Just hopefully it won't happen again for now until I feel better about things and have recovered from this......Have a great one Lea(((((hugs))))))Jane :)
But a ((((((((Hug))))))))) is something very important so I am giving that here....
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