Dating advice needed desperately...well
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Dating advice needed desperately...well
| Mon, 06-27-2005 - 10:52pm |
Hey all,
had to remove this thread for private reasons........
I have come to appreciate the women on this board and the advice and support that you give to me. This being removed had nothing to do with any members of this board. Please forgive me for acting so secretively, let's just say I don't want anyone to get hurt. That's all.
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halo
Edited 6/29/2005 8:23 pm ET ET by halo_hvn

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Edited 6/29/2005 8:24 pm ET ET by halo_hvn
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halo
halo I agree with cat. There is nothing worse than strained and superficial "how was your day? good. that's good. what do you wanna do? I dunno - what do you wanna do? hope you have a great day......" and so on and so forth yadda yadda yadda. Ugh.
I say try breaking the ice by having a game night (Trivial Pursuit or something that sparks conversation) with maybe another couple or some other friends there - if you can get her to commit to a date and time. Everyone will be chattering, and that could help y'all to find some common interests and topics to discuss in the future. Then you could
I know your situation all to well through our phone conversations. I think these ladies are coming up with some good advice.
However the protector in me thinks you should tell her to call if she cannot make the date instead of leaving you hanging until late so that you can not go about other plans. To me that is down right rude, selfish and unexceptable in dating. Once maybe, but 2, 3 or more times no way!
I would at least ask her to respect you enough to give you a call when she figures out she cannot make the commitment.
Like if you ask her out tell her to give you a call if something comes up so you can plan accordingly.
Other than that just keep it light and easy and see where it goes from here.
you don't have to talk to someone everyday if they are not wanting a commitment.
A simple goodnight call and how was your day chat is good.
To be honest, whenever I have told someone that I want to date but not commit that also meant not having to check in several times a day. Maybe if you don't answer a few of her calls it will give her something to talk about, lol. Kidding!... Sort of...
Or don't call her until that goodnight call. That way you might have the whole day to talk about.
She might not be a big phone talker like we said the other night.
It is so early in the dating phase, just don't let bad habits continue.
And remeber you can always call me to vent!
Laurie
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halo
Edited 6/29/2005 8:25 pm ET ET by halo_hvn
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Edited 6/29/2005 8:25 pm ET ET by halo_hvn
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She might not be a big phone talker like we said the other night.
I myself am not always (most of time) a lover of phone conversation. That's why I shy away from calling friends a lot or people I meet on here..
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Halo - the only thing to do right now is to talk to her about it. If you are feeling like that open yourself and explain to her how you feel!
Angel
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