Well, I finally told the green eyed lady
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Well, I finally told the green eyed lady
| Tue, 07-12-2005 - 2:27pm |
Bitter sweet... at least I finally had the courage to tell her... she was sweet, thanked me for the compliment... a gentle "let's be friends".. She really is a very classy Lady..

(((((pooh))))) you know, it's kind of funny, but I was having a discussion about this just recently. I was asked if I had ever came out to anyone I had feelings/crush on and I said "no way". That's just me. I will hold onto my feelings, no matter how deep they are or how bad it hurts to see the object of my desire move onto someone else without ever being given the chance to let her know that I was a possibility.....And I also went on to explain to this person that I have the utmost respect and admiration for anyone who does have the courage to risk rejection and maybe embarrasement by pouring thier heart out like that. It takes courage and openness and honesty - three things I look for in people, whether they be friends or lovers. Please don't let this get you down. I have a feeling that I am not the only one here who will respond to your post with loving support. You told her, and she was gracious to you (course she does not know what she's missing).
Big (((((hugs)))))
There is no shame in talking to someone about how you feel. If know one did the approaching there would be no relationships.
Rejection can be tough, but it does not really mean that a person rejects you as a person. They just do not feel that same spark for taking the relationship to that next level.
I am one of the approacher types. Like you, some worked out and some did not. The thing about it is, now you know, and can quit wondering and start thinking about moving on.
I know, easier said than done, yet it can be done when you do not allow yourself to drift off in to the fantasies and day dreams of being with the wrong person.
Do not be ashamed to have feelings toward someone. I have had people who have been interested in me when I am not feeling the same as them (I know we all have been on that side of the coin too.). Anyway, it is a nice warm feeling to be told that someone finds you attractive and has an interest in you. It makes me feel good to know someone can still think of me in that way and I never feel that they should feel ashamed for telling me that. I hate to see anyone hurt because of it, and I often find myself having a special place for that person in my heart, because they care about me. And when a person cares about me I end up caring about them, just not always in a romantic way.
I hope you will feel better about this soon. Not everybody will be a match and that is just life. It does not mean you are rejected as a person.
Keep the faith and hope and do not be afraid to ask someone out or flirt or tell them how you feel. Don't take that type of rejection to hard since you really have not begun a true relationship with that person you and they don't even know enough about each other other than someone's spark did not ignite. So, really you have lost nothing, but maybe gained a friend or special person in your life.
Someday, your true princess will come. ; )
Okay, pull yourself together now so you can be ready when the right one comes along.
You are still who you are before the green eye'd lady shot you down. Nothing has changed, she just has other interests is all.
You pooh, are a sweet caring person and you will find that special someone I know that.
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Well Pooh, at least you did say something. I like that song also. Take it easy and as you heal, you will have another chance at finding your sweetheart.
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((((((Pooh))))
I'm very sorry. I can so feel your pain. I've been there way too many times. You were brave. And, she was nice about it. I'm sure you were classy in the way you told her as well.
I placed a profile of myself on a NC dating web site last night. The membership is free. I know you are hurting right now, but after your heart begins to heal a bit, if you are interested, I can give you the link. There were lots of single women living in Raleigh. Just let me know...and BIG HUGS!
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My comment is more on the line of remember that she can still develop unseen feelings, so don't count her out. You are sufficient enough for her and it's all about her not you. Maybe things won't work out with the other lady and in time things may change. You were brave to tell her, just don't take it personally, like Laurie said she just isn't in the right place.
Enjoyed talking with you tonight. Let's do it again sometime.
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