Meeting girls on-line - please help?

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Registered: 11-15-2004
Meeting girls on-line - please help?
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Fri, 07-15-2005 - 12:39pm
I really want to meet some girls on-line since I live in very rural areas, both when I'm at college and when I'm at home on break. I don't want to pay for a membership with my credit card on a dating site, though, since my parents pay my credit card bill. My friend Anthony has offered to pay for a monthly membership for me, which is very sweet of him, but I'm not sure why he wants to do it. He has a girlfriend of his own, and I sort of suspect that he thinks that if he pays for the membership, he will get to watch some action if I actually meet any of the girls. I asked him if he wants me to pay him back for the fee of the dating site, but he said of course not. I'm afraid to ask him why he wants to pay for the membership, but I definitely don't want him involved in any of my relationships with other girls. I'm looking for a serious, committed relationship with a girl, and I don't want a guy involved. Plus, I don't want to jeopardize his relationship with his own girlfriend. Anyway, maybe I'm just being paranoid and silly, but I just wondered if anyone had any advice for me? I really want the membership, so I'm very tempted to take him up on his offer, but I don't want to feel like I owe him anything for it.

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Registered: 11-15-2004
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 9:47pm
You are absolutely right that I need to be careful. And thanks for the advice about the dating websites. I've had a little experience with PlanetOut and HotorNot, but that's about it. I guess that I just need to try out some sites and see what happens.
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Registered: 11-15-2004
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 10:27pm
You are right, of course. Building friendships is a necessary prelude to building a relationship. It's so hard to be patient sometimes, though, because I feel like I have so much love to give and so much to offer another girl. Patience is a virtue, though! I shall keep at it.
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Registered: 01-31-2005
Tue, 07-19-2005 - 1:23pm

Welcome to the board Pinkstar! You have already made yourself at home here, and that's great!


I totally agree with Nelle...it takes a lot of time and patience through community-building and friendship to find a good match for yourself. The wait can be very difficult. But, it also depends on what your goals are. If you're looking to find a long-term partner, of course that will take a lot of extra time and patience. You may find a casual dating relationship more quickly if that's what you want.


I met my partner, Caly, through this board. Finding your match online can be done, but it takes A LOT of communication. For us, it was easy because we bonded so quickly and realized up front how much we have in common.


Good luck to you and keep on posting!


Hugs,


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