What was I thinking?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2004
What was I thinking?
22
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 1:01am

SO,

I get this phone call from chickadee who has not seen me in three plus weeks. She's been calling to see how I am etc....nothing more. So I get this call around five and she asks what I'm doing? I said I'm on the phone with a friend. Then she asks me if I have any plans for the night and I said no I don't. She says I'm going to go to dinner w a friend of mine and after I'm meeting friends I haven't seen for two years. I'm waiting on the other end wondering so why are you telling me this? Then she said I'm thinking of going to the bar afterwards would you like to meet me there? I said sure fine, and she said I will call you.

I wait all evening and get no call. At eleven thirty I decided maybe I miss-understood her and left for the bar. Of course inside thinking no, she said she would call. Again I'm stood up. What was I thinking? No chickadee at the bar and it's now the time I post this. This isn't a good thing going on and why is it hurting like it is? I'm not going to lie and say yes I have plans that's just not me. If she calls me tomorrow I'm going to ask her not to call me anymore. Even though I know she wants to remain friends, even friends have more respect than that, am I right?

hugs
halo

hugs

halo

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2005
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 1:17am
You are so right Les.
I am going to call you now since you do not work tomorrow. so, if you are reading this, answer the phone...
Hugs,
Laurie
Check out my new blog.
co-cl of Lesbian Life Message Board
Email- didoangst@comcast.net
http://didoangst.blogspot.com/
http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html
Hugs, Laurie Check out my new blog. co-cl of Lesbian Life Message Board Email- didoangst@comcast.net http://didoangst.blogspot.com/ http://www.4-lesbianlife.com/
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-05-2005
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 1:41am
I agree with you 110%......maybe I am to picky or ummm something yet I demand even from my friends....more respect,rarely do i get it....are people just like that now?????I am clueless.....always seems to be a game with most people.....well there are more of us in your situation......if it hurt you well I am sorry...i am at the point of 99% of the time expecting it from others,which really stinks....shows you how many times I have been thru these kinds of things myself......still I have a speck of hope left.....not sure why......I am sorry halo....I think whatever you do ,you have the right to....and sure I would do the same....crap I have already done the same.....hugs to you,Jo
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2005
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 7:13am

((((((Halo)))))

Yes, you are right. I would say that she's inconsiderate of your feelings. You deserve better treatment than that. I think you know exactly the right thing to do for yourself in regard to her. Hope your Saturday is better!

hugs,

andie

Avatar for poohntgr0163
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 8:52am
Lesli, I am so sorry!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-15-2004
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 8:59am

Aww, Halo...that stinks. I'm so sorry. It does sound like she's jerking you around a bit. And I totally agree that friends are more respectful than that. How about the next time she makes this kind of offer, go ahead and say you don't have plans...but also turn down her offer to get together. Friends don't treat each other that way...she doesn't sound like a friend worth having. I really am sorry you were hurt.

Jules

Jules

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 11:56am

I'm sorry that happened--that was really rude of her!


I'm glad you're planning to confront her. You don't deserve to be treated that way!


Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2004
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 2:56pm

Jo,

Thanks for your input. I don't like to think of her at that level and I think she's just not thinking things through. I would like to think that people want to have the same respect. I'm sure if I was doing this to her, she would post the same sentiments.

I can say that in my line of business and at ITT I get surprised quite often at how inconsiderate people are getting towards each other. For example you fill out a request for information about school, I call up and identify myself and say that you have an inquiry about our school, mid sentence they hang up! How rude is that? I'm calling to give you information you requested. Strange behavior indeed. Even with telemraketers unsolicited phone calls I'm kind enough to say I'm going to hang up since you insist on not listening to me tell you I'm not interested. Call me twice and yes I will hang up on you at that point!

hugs
halo

hugs

halo

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2004
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 2:58pm

Thanks Andie,

I'm just like you in this whole dating scene and let me tell you it doesn't get easier when you get older! Women

hugs
halo

hugs

halo

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2004
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 2:59pm

Pooh,

Thank you so much for the great big hugs! Again you come to the rescue! What a sweet person you are!

hugs
halo

hugs

halo

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2004
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 3:04pm

Wow Jules,

Out of the closet comes this bright shining rainbow! Welcome back! Your new home sounds sweet and yes, your daughters are really going to need your home to come to! Isn't it just like a man to run out for a replacement. They can't stand living on their own! I knew men going into the military that bragged about finding a wife so they could cook and clean for them and get the increase in dependent pay. They even joked around that they didn't care if they loved her or not, they could always have a girl on the side. They were serious and I told them they were sick!

Nice to see you back, don't be a stranger!

hugs
halo

hugs

halo

Pages