What was I thinking?

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Registered: 11-29-2004
What was I thinking?
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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 1:01am

SO,

I get this phone call from chickadee who has not seen me in three plus weeks. She's been calling to see how I am etc....nothing more. So I get this call around five and she asks what I'm doing? I said I'm on the phone with a friend. Then she asks me if I have any plans for the night and I said no I don't. She says I'm going to go to dinner w a friend of mine and after I'm meeting friends I haven't seen for two years. I'm waiting on the other end wondering so why are you telling me this? Then she said I'm thinking of going to the bar afterwards would you like to meet me there? I said sure fine, and she said I will call you.

I wait all evening and get no call. At eleven thirty I decided maybe I miss-understood her and left for the bar. Of course inside thinking no, she said she would call. Again I'm stood up. What was I thinking? No chickadee at the bar and it's now the time I post this. This isn't a good thing going on and why is it hurting like it is? I'm not going to lie and say yes I have plans that's just not me. If she calls me tomorrow I'm going to ask her not to call me anymore. Even though I know she wants to remain friends, even friends have more respect than that, am I right?

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halo

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halo

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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 3:06pm

Thank you,

I told her in the new post that we both don't deserve to be treated that way. I hope she reflects on the conversation this morning and sees that I only wanted to stop feeling hurt over the excitement, grief and sorrow. But, having feelings must be a crazy thing to have! lol

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halo

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halo

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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 6:02pm

Hi Halo..Well I'm a bit late on answering to this post..I mean that only because you already have gotton a lot of good advice and I do and will agree with it all!..
You definately deserve better..As for people getting more and more like this(bad behavior)


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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 6:45pm

Oh, I doubt you are like me. Unlike you, I've never dated. But, it hasn't been because I've not tried. Hello rejection city. :) You gotta laugh, because that's all that is left to do. Last weekend in Asheville, I had my first visit to a gay bar. I had zero looks from women. Trust me...if you don't believe me, ask TING/Caly or Kim/Court. I put my profile on three dating sites recently. I've not had a response yet. I've browsed the profiles. A lot of these women want somebody with a big income or higher degree than I have. If they don't want that, which I don't qualify for btw, then they'll state in their profile how they want a serious relationship and you should be replying only if you are seriously interested in them. Well, how am I suppose to know if I serious about them when I've not even dated them once? Me being the virgin that I am, that's scary to read someone's profile that states you should be ready to commit to them. Tell me about yourself, but don't make me swear that I'll marry you before meeting you. LOL Then, I must mention the Mistress. Her profile said that she would teach you about the Big D's. DOMINANCE. I really don't want my first date to involve whips. LOL

Okay, let's just chalk it up here. Women just aren't into me. But, guys...now that's a different story. This morning, I arrived at the Y after my run. I was sweaty (whole front and back part of my shirt was wet), had bed head, and probably smelled. LOL This guy flirts with me- bed head and all.

I could get a facial, have a $500 hair cut, a body wrap, and sport new threads from American Eagle- walk into a room full of single lesbians and not get one look.

Now that's andie's world. LOL The chicks don't dig me hon, but the dudes do.

But, you on the other hand are attractiing some attention. Though, this gal isn't treating you as she should- you're sure to find that one special lady I'm certain of it. (((Halo)))

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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 7:12pm

I could get a facial, have a $500 hair cut, a body wrap, and sport new threads from American Eagle-

I can picture it!~~ and I say you would get looks!.. I'm not saying you did get


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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 8:09pm

((((CAT)))) you are the best friend a grrl could have! I could just give you a bear hug, though I don't know if the bears would like it. :)

Get this...while this guy was trying to flirt, a girl runs up to get his attention. I think she was jealous. LOL Man, they just don't get it! :)

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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 8:46pm
Andie - I so agree with the Kitty Cat - you're sense of humor is sooo sexy!!
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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 8:49pm
*Smiles... That is funny about the girl..and yeah they don't have gaydar so naturally they won't get it.. Course some think even then.. they need to watch their guy.. LOL..
An ((((RJ Hug)))) is

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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 10:33pm
I hope she gets it, too, Halo!

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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 8:35am

((((((Pooh))))) Thanks. Those were very nice words. I hope you are right. I'll let you do the crusing though. LOL I think I'll just sit it out on the bench for a while. I don't feel like anymore hard blows. :) (football talk)

Are you going to the Raleigh Pride in September? *Just curious.

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andie

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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 10:27am

Hey I want to come with you all if you go to that pride!

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halo

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halo