How did you meet that special someone?

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How did you meet that special someone?
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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 12:13pm

I was wondering if you ladies would be willing to share with me the story of how you met your significant other? Or if you don't have a significant other, what kind of person do you want to meet and how would you want to meet them?

I guess I'm in the mood to hear romantic stories!

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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 1:12pm


Well, I'm a bit of a romantic, and I don't mind telling you how I met some of my girlfriends.

Well, I used to go to a bar called the Rennisance(sp). Anyway, I would go out on a Saturday night, wearing my best jeans, a shirt, and some cologne. I would sit and watch the ladies come in. I would look at them all, and then when a slow song came on I would ask one of them if they wanted to dance. Then I would take her into my arms, hold her close and dance. And afterward, I would buy her a drink, and then if she wanted to spend some time with me, then we would. Usually, we would end up, talking for the rest of the evening.

Then she would drive home, we would have a nice long kiss goodnight, and then we would make plans to see each other again, but it never worked out that way. Or, sometimes, I would get lucky, and be invited over to her apartment, have some coffee or wine. And end up, talking some more, or maybe neck, or more!

I hope that that gives you an idea of how I met some of my girlfriends.

 


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Sebastian


 


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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 1:46pm

the first time I saw her see came into the club where she later would work....she was shooting pool with a goofy looking guy.....
i met her briefly....I was already friends with her sister.....my male friedn with me had the biggest crush on her sister.....

never really paid her (chasity) much attention......then out of the blue,we began talking.....all the time....she was supposed to be waiting tables and working....instead every chance she got she was sitting and talking to me...

I began taking things I had written in,and letting her read them....she was full of questions asking who they were inspired by and things.....

then her car was broken for a while and I began taking her to pay bills and taking her to stores she had never been in,yet always wanted to go in....she saw something one day that struck her eye but didn't but it.....a charm she liked....I later bought it for her and surprised her with it.....

..after being on-line I became curious"I think to much" ,I had seen to many "we are a couple wanting a gf "ads...went in and asked her if she would ever cheat on her husband,certain I knew I would hear a "heck no"....she replied she wasn't sure.....

it was also brought on by me and my friends always going to the club she worked and getting very very very drunk....my buddy one night pulled chas on her lap and said she knew someone who really liked chas(I couldn't hear a word they were saying)....chas said she liked me,my friend said no she really likes you....

a few night later I went in....sat down,got my pepsi...she came up sat down....said you never asked me who I was attrached to...everything stoppped.....I almost spilled my pepsi,I said I think I know,without looking at her.....then "rearrange " comes on (limp bizit-not very romantic,lol)....it goes"just think about it " at the beginning...she said well just think about it and walks off....I am still sitting there like what just happened......later she says talk to me before you leave as I would have left without talking to her,lol.....

we planned for me to pick her up that next night.....for our "first official date".....I went to pick her up...she looked nice,almost dressed up for a change....I had bought a new sweater,lol....she wanted to go to a rave,but knew I would hate it and be bored( and I would have) ,I was thinking the gay club....we were both exhausted...with her telling her husband about her feelings for me and my turmoil in the whole situation as well,we went to my house to decide...my friends called to see what we were doing....I called my friends and canceled ,she called hers and canceled.....we fell asleep after kissing........

i am pretty romantic....do alot of kind,romantic things for single friends on valentine's day and things like that......maybe my frist days with chasity weren't the most romantic ,but what they lacked in romance ...was made up...we were magical together....a once in a lifetime thing.....

best of luck to you at finding someone (for everyone here including myself once again) that brings magic to your life,......have a great one,Jo

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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 2:34pm
I love romance so I will tell you about my meeting with my g/f.
We were attending a birthday party of a friend of mine. Two other women who were friends of mine brought Sheila along as a blind date for the birthday girl.
It was one of those birthday parties where everyone goes out to dinner and then out to the bars for dancing.
When I walked into the room at a gay restaraunt Our eyes met. I asked one of my friends "Who is that" She asked her friends the same.
(Turns out she and the birthday girl did not feel any sparks)
Well, Sheila walked over to me and we introduced ourselves. We sat down together and talked and danced all night untill 3 am. She kissed me goodnight, and gave me her phone number. The next evening I called her to tell her that I really had a nice evening at the party and asked her out for the next weekend (which was the 4th of july. I gave her my number incase her plans might change.
She called me the next evening and we just talked and made plans to meet for dinner the next night.
After dinner we walked around this place called Broad Ripple where people of diverse lifestyles hang out. It is street after street of clubs with live entertainment etc. We went into some of the clubs to hear the different bands and have a drink then walked somemore. They all have outside seating too.
Around midnight we went our seperate way with plans to attend a concert the next night that was going to be at the Vogue theater there in Broad Ripple. We saw the sign while walking around. She seemed very interested to go so I bought our tickets that night.
We had a very nice time at the concert. It was one of those unplugged concerts (I forget who she was.) so we were able to sit ata table and talk.
After the concert we walked around Broad Ripple again and stopped for coffee and again went our seperate ways.
On the fourth of july we met everyone at the scheduled meeting place. She and I rode together to the park downtown. They have bands and food etc. all day before the fireworks. We all brought blankets and put them all down and had a great day. Laughed and lazed around the park all day and watched the fireworks that night.
We then all went to the bar after the firework, closed the bar then headed over to the Canary Cafe for breakfast. Where all glbt's go after the bars close.
Again, we went our seperate ways.
Next night while talking on the phone we decided we wanted to be together. I picked her up and we went to the gay bar where we could sit outside (they have a privacy fence all around it.
We started kissing and it started to get a bit heated so we decided to leave the bar. We were each living with our ex's at the time for convenience purposes so we decided to get a hotel room at this really nice hotel.
We spent the night together and dated for 6 more months then literally rented a u-haul to move in together.
We have been together for 8 years now this month.
We have matching rings but have not had a commitment ceramony. We want it to be a real and legal thing when we marry.
We have talked of moving to Canada. But our parents are elderly and we want to be here for them if they should need us.
Maybe we will move to Canada in the future. We both love it there. I think it would be hard to give up our American citizenship though so we would have to think hard. After all I served my country and love it here too.
It's not perfect but it is our's.
While doing Stand up comedy I met many women but those relationships if you can call them that did not work out.
They did not like me traveling to do my shows and that was how I was making my living at the time. They would also get very jealous when people would come up to talk to me after the shows.
Sheila was ok with my traveling for the first year but then asked if I would consider less travel time. So I eventually have not done comedy except for local shows. I miss it so much though and hope that I can get some writing work someday.
And another thing that really impressed me was the fact that she has a wicked sense of humor and she would sit with me and I could bounce my material off of her and she could add to it. It is really fun when we write material together. She started to keep notes at all my shows on which jokes worked best consistantly and which ones did not always work and how I changed them sometimes that made them funnier or not. We weeded out the material that did not get the huge laughs and only kept the really good stuff. So she is also my writing buddy which is always suggested that you have. It has added alot to my shows and she has really helped my confidence in my material. No one else ever took an interest like that. She has also helped book shows for me.
I don't want to ruin my relationship over it though. It was always my dream to be a comedian since I was a little kid.
At least I know that I have had a chance to live my dream and that I was good at it. I just can't seem to have both my dream and a relationship. This relationship is the only one I cared enough about to stop traveling over. I would get so homesick while I was gone. Now I have panick attacks when I have to travel so I am ok with doing the local comey shows etc.
I feel very happy and lucky to have the life I do have now.
That is my story. I hope you enjoyed it.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 2:50pm
I am enjoying reading these too. Nice topic pinky!
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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 6:17pm

well I'm afraid my story is far from romantic but I will share it anyway- my first love I met online on the old women.com message boards. Seems we each developed a fascination for each other and had followed each other all over the boards (and I thought it was conincidence when she showed up wherever I posted, lol) which led to an online relationship for almost 4 years but distance and dynamics made it very difficult and we decided we werent being fair to each other or ourselves and called it a day.

My current partner I met through my son, she is his best friends mother. She had heard rumours that her son was going to a lesbians house to play, small town gossip, shock horror so she thought she better do the right thing and come and meet me. Right from the first time we saw each other there was this instant chemistry/attraction thing going on but she was married and I was "involved" with my online gf. I spent time with her while her husband was away fishing, just for company because I am very well behaved you know... and then she moved away to be closed to the hospital here as it is better able to provide for her boys special medical needs while she was treated like a neurotic mother at the local hospital.

Her husband did not support the move, he had being having an affair for two years which Nat knew about, she had tried to forgive him and work on getting their relationship back but she discovered the trust just wasnt there and there were far greater temptations in the world so they broke up.

I stayed in that small town for a year after she had moved, I was pretty angry really because she hadnt taken me in consideration and I didnt have much to do with her in that time because I didnt want to get caught up in it all. She came back one christmas and announced that she had been seeing anohter guy (her 3rd boyfriend since she moved) and he wanted to marry her and did I think it was a good idea. I told her its her life not mine and shut the door in her face. I had to go to her house to get my son the next day and she took me for a walk along the foreshore to talk, her fiance had to go back home because of work and in the time it was just me and her, she talked me into moving back with her, staying with her until I found a place of my own, her fiance heard I was moving here and never contacted her again- she felt a bad about it but realised she didnt care for him like she thought. And almost 4 years later, here I still am... living in my own house now, still dealing with her insecurities about sex, commitment, being with a woman and not a man.... and honestly, I am feeling like I cant deal with it anymore.


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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 6:35pm

Ahhhhh..Our story/mine and ~S's~ is definately different and perhaps later this eve I will post it.. If not the


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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 10:47pm

I love telling the story of meeting my honey. :)

It's pretty simple, actually - we met through match.com. Once I filtered through all the bicurious girls, and the couples looking for a 3rd to share, and the extreme lipstick lezzies & diesel dykes (no offense to either, just not my type) there she was. "Geek girl seeks brainiac." Perfect! She met all my basic 'criteria' for age, distance, religion, politics etc, and besides that she's also one of those few people who actually put some thought and originality into making her profile reflect her personality. I sent a free wink, she winked back, I wrote an email that she responded to well. We set up a first meet/date for a workday lunch, which was a little awkward (you know, first impressions anxiety) but we promptly set up another 'date' for that weekend. We had so much fun hanging out together, talking about all kinds of stuff and just relating to each other really well.

One of the things that made me say 'this one may be a keeper' was during one of our first long phone calls. I have a son who's almost 5, and anyone with kids will vouch that there are some times where an instant crisis comes up over *nothing*... so he had a minor meltdown, and I asked her to hold on a second while I attended to it, came back and said sorry about that... She said to me, "please don't *ever* apologize for putting me on hold to take care of the kid, I totally understand that comes first." Which is *awesome* - thing about kids is people either get it or they don't - and she gets it. Matter of fact, as I was writing this, she was in the other room reading to him.

So this is 3 months and it's all utterly fabulous. We just click in a way I've never had with anyone else, and we're able to talk about some of those uncomfortable topics that I've not been able to discuss with other SO's. And she's just a sane adult with her **** together shocking, isn't it? (Did I mention she also happens to be a hot hottie?) LOL... I'm just one of the luckiest people ever right now. :)

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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 2:19am

Hi Pinkstar ~ don't think we've met as yet. I'm Lou - I've been visiting this site for some 5 years or so now; I'm a Brit through and through; live in Liverpool famous for

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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 11:00pm

*Sigh~ So Sweet~


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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 11:24pm

It's very nice to meet you! Thanks so much for replying to my post and sharing your story with me, and with everyone else on the board, too. I really enjoyed reading it, and I think it's so exciting that you met your partner on this board. It gives single girls like me a lot of hope that someone special might be out there for us, too!

Hope you had a great weekend and that everything is going well for you!

By the way, I love England! I went for a couple of weeks with my dad a few years ago, and I'm absolutely dying to go back!

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