Now I'm a Crazy Person

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Registered: 11-29-2004
Now I'm a Crazy Person
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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 2:48pm

Update, the short version point

A friend called this morning and stated that she (the girl) was upset because I was spending time at a friends house. So, I call and ask the girl to meet me. We meet in person and I explain in the simplest and most non-threatening or upset manner, that I can't allow this to go on. The phone calls and the making plans and not following through. I said I don't deserve, no we don't deserve that even as friends. I assured her what a wonderful person she is, that I liked her a lot and that I didn't want our dating or friendship to be at that level. She agreed. I wanted her to know that I also have friends that I like to spend time with. She apologized and said she thought I was cool about everything. I said I am, just call me if something comes up so I'm not waiting. We departed in agreement that when we make plans that each one of us will call the other if anything should change so were not sitting around waiting.

So, I do this very adult thing and a friend calls me as soon as I get home and said that she (the girl) called her and thinks I'm crazy now.

I wanted to put a stop to the insanity for both of us, before I got another phone call asking me if I have plans. Again, was that too much to ask or do? geesh

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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 3:20pm
Awwww, my pilot,
Throw this one back into the sea. She is not a keeper. Let someone else hook this one, she is not for you, she is a bottom feeder.
You can do so much better.
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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 4:01pm


Lesli,

This is why I like talking and letting someone know what's on my mind, instead of being indirect about what I want, having someone assume how I feel about them, or being shy, or playing, "yo-yo". Everyone here knows that I'm a very direct person, you ask me a question, and I'll give you an answer I can only take so much, of coy games.

If there's nothing more annoying is playing guessing games. If I say I'm going to call someone, dang it, I call! When I told you that my mom said, "Stop chasing them, let them chase you!" I meant that you should just stop calling! Let her figure out what she wants, and go on about your business. I mean unless, you like sitting by the phone, and wasting the day and half the night, when you could have been out having fun with your friends, or doing whatever.

If it seems like I snapped at you, I'm sorry, but the situation that you are in, is driving me crazy, and I really wish you would put an end to this.

 


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Sebastian


 


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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 6:09pm

Good Grief!~~ This girl is very imature ..It seems so by the things you are saying that she does..
As Laurie said.. but in different words.. "Kick her to the curb".. You can get better treatment from any body off the St.!~~~~
But I know.. Sometimes we are long in learning our lessons...Been there....


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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 6:28pm

I'm sorry Halo, it just doesnt like this girl respects you at all, running and telling her friend everything as well- its all a silly game which you are far better off not playing with them. Once you go too far down that road, there reaches a point that is very hard to turn back from, trust me, dont even go there!!

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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 7:53pm
Hugs Hugs and More Hugs Les, I'm so sorry you are having to put up with this.. I have to agree with Kitty Cat.. she's really immature!
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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 11:52pm

Awwwww Laurie you are so sweet.

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Sat, 07-16-2005 - 11:56pm

Don't feel like you snapped at me Gigi! lol

You always have great advice and I admire you forthright behavior!

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Registered: 09-30-2003
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 2:53am

Lesli, you don't need someone playing you like this, hon. You CAN indeed do much better. She seems extremely immature. You had every right to raise these issues with her about the not showing up and stuff - in fact, the way you have handled it is a mark of your maturity in my eyes. The fact that she construes this as 'craziness' speaks volumes about her, Lesli. I suspect that she's doing this as a way

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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 10:36am

I agree with you Loubie. IMHO I think she is falling for me and is so afraid to let herself go. She doesn't want me to be a rebound and is trying so hard to keep her distance. She said she didn't realize that she was doing that to me? She thought I was cool with it all, lol. I've been giving her so much space and nothing seems to go right with her. I'm serious when I say I don't want a relationship with her and she laughs and says yes I do. I don't want to have a relationship with her because of all the red flags here. It would be best if we stay distant friends at this point. Thanks so much for the words of encouragement. I can't wait til we all get to meet in Asheville if that's the location? wheeee

Have a great week! Oh, I watched a very interesting show filmed in London yesterday. Cafe Girl, have you ever heard of it? I thought it was interesting even though there were no strong actors, except the eccentric boyfriend who was the finance consultant in the show!

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