Anxious about visiting friend - help!
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| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 8:35pm |
One of my friends from college has invited me to come and visit her for a weekend in August. We go to college in western New York state, and I'm at home for the summer in northwestern Pennsylvania, and she's in upstate New York. I haven't known her for very long, but we have become good friends fairly quickly. I have some problems with general anxiety, though, and I get nervous about absolutely everything - big or small. I really want to visit her and meet her family, but I'm really nervous about it! One of my problems is that I don't have a driver's license. I am going to take the test soon, but I don't know for sure that I'll pass it before August. I think I will, but you never know. My mom has kindly offered to drive me up to see my friend, but I feel badly that she has to take time off work, and I just feel silly that I can't drive myself up there.
What do you think I should do?? I need to let my friend know soon whether or not I can come. Thanks for reading, everyone!

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I know all about anxiety. I had a hard time about going to a family reunion from Indianapolis to Ohio.
I am sure happy and thankfull that I made it. It wouldn't hurt for your Mom to take you either, especially if you are just getting you liscense.
I rode with my Mom to Ohio and went with me Dad, sister ect, to the reunion.
It is very sweet of your Mom to offer. Just hope you have a way back then too. Lol.
Keep us posted...
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Sorry ((Pink)) that you also have anxiety.. I also get it.. I think a lot of people do.. I take
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Yeah, I'm taking Zoloft right now. I've tried all different kinds of anti-depressants. Zoloft (25 mg, 50 mg, 75 mg), Prozac (20 mg, 30 mg), Trazodone (50 mg), Lexapro (10 mg), and now I'm trying Zoloft again at 50 mg! *haha* For some reason, anti-depressants don't really seem to help much with my anxiety, only my depression. I know they are supposed to help for anxiety, too, but none of the ones I have taken have really seemed to help me much on that issue.
My mom suggested meditation for my anxiety in the past and I've tried some other stuff like that, too. I still have a lot of trouble with it. I don't really know what else to try. :-(
Thanks for replying to me and for being so sweet to me!
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Laurie,
You know when I was in high school I was very shy and introverted. Someone told me to put my head up and walk down the middle of the hall in high school and that it will build my self confidence. I started doing that and had my hair cut so I wasn't hiding my face anymore. I had issues with anxiety in public as well. After I started being a clown where I could hide behind my make up, I became comfortable being around people. When I joined the military I was required to get in front of my platoon and speak to many people. I got so nervous at times. Then one day I was giving a speech on safety for a grade at my Officer Basic Course. Before I began my speech I walked over to the edge of the stage, which had new carpeting and I flew over the edge into the third row of chairs. Everyone was cracking up including me. Every time I started my speech I broke out in laughter. The prof said take your time and breath. I started my speech and he gave me an "A" at the end. When I explained to him that it was really an accident, he cracked up. He actually thought it was part of a demonstration for safety! lol
My anxiety is still here at times, what I find most is that the more I put myself out in front of people, the better it gets. Like I'm afraid of heights, so I climb mountains and fly. I have a fear of spiders so I will stare at one and watch it closely to see what it's doing, then I kill it! lol
Taking the advice and putting myself in front helped open doors that would have been slammed in my face. Two huge guys chickened out on the 100 foot rope drop before it was my turn to climb the poles. I was scared to death, yet I couldn't back down after those two strong men did. I climbed......scared to death and I dropped into the water! Never peek and look down at the water, ouch it hurt. I kept thinking where's the water and curiosity got the best of me! lol
Over coming fear and anxiety is a hard thing to do. It wasn't as easy for me as I make it sound now. I truly was scared...just like I was watching that scarey movie, yikes I'm such a woose at times, lol hahahaha
MY prayers are with everyone here who suffers from anxiety. I pray that you find the courage to face these obstacles head on and I will be with you in spirit always.
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HI Pinkstar,
I don't know if my advice will help you, but I wrote a post to Laurie in this thread and it was meant for you to read as well. It's just a few of the ways that I was able to over come my fears. Best wishes to you and I hope you go on that trip. Go and make wonderful memories to last you a lifetime even if your mom drives you!
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I found the xanax to be very strong, and they took me off of it. It made me sleepy.
I hope you can push though it and go.
Laurie
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I have always enjoyed being in front of people. I played my first music recital when I was 5 years old all by memory. I really loved it. Especially the applause, I remember I thought wow! And I felt so good, like very high. I still get that way doing comedy.I could have had one of the coolest speaking jobs that came about via comedy, but I would have had to travel and stay in hotels alone. That is what gives me anxiety, ever since my assault. And it depresses me because I love to be around people. Especially on the stage. It seems my anxiety gets worse as I get older, but my counselor thinks it may have something to do with terrorism and so many people getting abducted in the news. I am supposed to quit being a news junky, but I can't help myself.
Laurie
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