DangleWash response

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Registered: 11-29-2004
DangleWash response
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Sat, 07-30-2005 - 6:59pm

Hey, I was reading the Monday moans and wanted to respond to your last post. I think it just got lost on the end!

In response to your question, if I remember correctly you have problems with him being around correct? Does he have legal custody/visiting rights to your baby? If he does, then you have no choice then to allow him his visitation. Especially if he's court ordered to pay child support and you have a signed divorce agreement about custody rights. To take the child out of state I believe you have to have a signed agreement and it must be on file with the State Child Enforcement agency. That's what I had to do to move to Virginia.

On the other hand, if you don't have a binding divorce/custody agreement, then I say Oh H no! Especially if he pays no child support and has no legal rights. If he wants legal rights let him get an attorney, which at that point the judge will make him pay support. Hopefully he has no good job and no good moral values to stand in front of a judge to complain about you not allowing him to see the baby. Sounds like he wants to create a new family and you will be out of the picture if the new misses gets her way! Believe me, my ex husbands wife talked to him about getting custody of my children, and I said H No! I told him I would personally kick her TOSS and he knew I meant business. That B lost her children to the courts and I will be Tossed if she got her hands on my children.......ewwwww the thought still riles me up! lololol

Best wishes to you, and I hope others will post to this as well. I'm no expert in this matter, just MHO that's all.

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halo

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halo

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Registered: 06-24-2004
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 10:07am

Halo,

Sorry it took me so long to post, I've been very busy.

This is not my exH child. I got pregnant when a friend took me out to cheer me up. I had too much to drink (I don't handle liq. good at all). His house was very near the bar so he took me back there. Any way when it came down to it everything was planned out (he told me when I called him to tell him I was pregnant)for me to have him baby. He said this way he'll always be in my life and I couldn't get rid of him.

I took him to court for support. I just started to receive it. He has taken the baby a couple of times (and the baby is getting ready to turn six months). He may call about three/four times a month to check up on the baby. He is getting married (he told me after I had the baby) and has a baby to the her that is two days older than my son. He visits his daughter all the time (she is about one hour from his house). My son lives about ten minutes from him (if that). We have no order about visits, etc. I've always been the type that wouldn't hold a child back from seeing his father.

I have no problem with him seeing, and taking him for a while. But he is too young for over night visits. And to young to be taken out of state. I also don't want some other women taking care of my son when she already has negative feelings of me and him. My son isn't older enough to call home if something is wrong. His father saids that she has to get use to him and me because he'll always be in our lifes.

I don't know if I'm being too over-protective or not? He doesn't see the baby like he should. He he does the baby cries and cries (just as soon as he hears his voice). I just don't know what to do. Should I let him go? I don't want to seem like a mean person. This is my baby and I want to keep him safe.

Angel

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Registered: 11-29-2004
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 11:22am

"Does he have legal custody/visiting rights to your baby?"

"I took him to court for support. I just started to receive it"

IMHO I believe you have no choice then to allow him his visitations, unless you have a court order that prevents him from seeing the child... You should contact the child support agency to find out what has to be done for him to take the child out of state and what legal rights he has/you have.

Best of Luck

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halo

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halo

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Registered: 02-15-2004
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 12:43pm

I don't think you're being overprotective at all. I wouldn't take any chances either. In my opinion, that whole situation doesn't sound good to me at all. It seems that even though he's taking care of his son, he's not paying attention to the fact, that no woman, wants another woman to raise their child. And that he's very selfish.

Even though you're not the type that would withhold your son's visit with his father, that's fine. But he has to also respect your rights, for not wanting to have your child away from you overnight. Of course, I'm not a lawyer, but I would talk with a lawyer to see what you can do to protect yourself, and your child. I wouldn't leave anything open to chance.

Just a suggestion.

 


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Sebastian


 


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Registered: 06-24-2004
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 1:12pm

Looking into all of the legal stuff right now!

Angel