my issue for the day....

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my issue for the day....
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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 5:07pm
well my brother is having problems(major ones) with depression...he is older then me (34) and gay as well...He lost his bf after 9 years about 10 months ago....They lost the home they bought together and pretty much everything...at first he felt good and was happy to be single....I took his babies(his dogs) so he knew they were in good hands.....he has a business now and works probably 70 hours a week,...some depression is that the business is over-whelming and he has money but no time to relax and enjoy it....some depression is for the fact that he can't meet a nice guy(he is ready to settle down again,i feel),all the guy treat him like dirt,string him along,or whatever...
today he's been at the doctor waiting to try and get something (meds ) for this depression for 3 hours now at least...he cried to my mom on the phone and well I am very afraid ,not sure if he would ever try and hurt himself or if it is depression and no sucidial thoughts....
I plan to ask him tonight if he would hurt himself when I call him....
not sure what to do....am going to ask him if he needs me there....
it's a three to four hour drive to where he lives now,but he knows I have always been there and always will...and well I had my own depression I was treated for ,so he knows I have been there as well....
not sure i need advice just maybe needed to get this out....thanks.....Jo

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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 6:53pm

Well, as we all know, depression will do a number on you. All you can do is be there for him, Jo. If he does seem to becoming a danger to himself, either you or he needs to get him some help.

Losing a long term relationship, especially if you've been together for a long while, can really mess you up.

All I can do is say some prayers for him and you. But you know that we are here for you.

Hold on, Jo

 


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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 7:12pm
thanks gigi.....very much...like I said not that I really need advice....I hate it for him....he's my best friend and well my hero...an awesome guy.....he waited 3 hours today to see his doctor and they gave them a medication...and something to help him sleep....I really don't think he would hurt himself but I need to know so i can sleep....
I know the break-up effected everyone...his bf was part of our family....here for all the holidays and so forth...thank you for responding to my post....have a good one,Jo
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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 8:58pm
Hang in there Jo. We can talk brother issues again when I get back from visiting Eddie. ((((hugs))))

 

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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 9:10pm
thanks sadie.....I'll be here....maybe you can call me and give me the long story if you feel up to it....I'll listen......you hang in there as well....I guess there are reasons for everything???or so I am told....((((hugs))))Jo
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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 11:03pm

(((((( Jo & Brother ))))))


You are a great caring sister, you

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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 12:57am
((((((((((((Hugs Jo))))))))))))))) So sorry to hear about your brother.. Definately breaking up after all those years can do a number on him.. I am glad he got the meds but totally understand your fear and wanting to keep an eye on him.. You have been through so much .. Do keep in touch with him.. I know you will of course, because til the meds kick in and case of side effects.. If he has you in his corner and he knows how much you look up to him, hope-fully it will bring the brightness back for him..
((((((((((((Hugs Hon)))))))))))) Thanks for sharing with us..

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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 1:43am

His own business is a great sign. He's over worked and needs rest and relaxation. Business owners are a rare breed and he has the ability to work towards his dream. I'm no psychologist or anything, but he sounds capable of rational thought if he's seeking out help. To me that's a good sign! My prayers will be with your brother and you, take care...

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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 4:10am

It can be very hard to watch someone you care about having such a hard time in life. He is lucky to have a sister so concerned but dont go thinking you can fix things for him. Just tell him you are there if he needs you- taking meds wont fix his problems in finding a relationship or being over worked- maybe a counsellor would be a better idea?

take care & I hope life looks up for him soon


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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 2:09pm
Ok jo,
No advice, just know I am thinking of you and your brother and hope this will resolve in a positive way.
Please do keep us posted.
I did say a prayer for your brother before typing this.
I truly hope all goes well. It is nice that you to are close and caring of each other.
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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 4:35pm
thank you to everyone....I love my family.....he is doing better,we have talked a few times today....I told him I would come there this weekend if he needed me...I also agree that jsut medicating doesn't work....counseling would help with that,and well is necessary but I am going to wait and talk to him about that when he is feeling a little bit better.....thanks to everyone for supporting me as you always have ....Jo

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