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| Tue, 08-09-2005 - 12:16am |
on a second date?
A U-Haul!
You know, I never thought that joke was very funny but now I know why. What ever happened to dating? Why is it that when I meet someone it has to be all or nothing? I really like this new girl in my life, but kissing one day and talking about living together the next is kinda freakin me out. I don't want to offend her, or run her off but I am free and independent for the very first time in my life and I like it. Financially it scares me a little, but I work alot so it's ok. I can rest when I am old. I don't want to answer to anyone. Is that a crappy thing to say?
I had a husband for 13 years, then a live in girlfriend for the year immediately following my divorce. I want to be alone sometimes. I don't want to have to answer for every little thing I do. On the other hand I feel like if I let this opportunity pass me by there may not be another. How many lesbians live in small town Oklahoma? Not many! Sooo, I'm just thinking out loud here. Any advice?
Hugs, Sandra

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Sandr
Laurie, love your first idea, butthead. *wink*
OK, she wants Leanne and I to move in her home once he is gone, it's a beautiful 4,000 sq ft, 3 yr old home that she designed. It means alot to her. I live in a 2 bedroom brick renthouse. I love my house, it's perfect for me and Leanne. I am not saying it wouldn't be nice to live in her house, but mine is good too. I don't want to give it up. She just wants us with her, I say we can visit anytime, but I should keep my house. Leanne and I worked hard to make it our home, we like ours just fine.
Hugs, Sandra
Sandr
I am not going to push her away, I just want to put the brakes on a little. Don't get me wrong, I can't stand having to say goodbye to her everyday. I would love to sleep with her at night, but life isn't that simple. I think all of us here know how hard it is to say goodbye or be apart from someone we love, it stinks. But I don't want to make any huge decisions just yet. I like her very much, I also like my freedom.
Hopefully someday we can live together, but not tomorrow.
Hugs, and thanks, Sandra
Sandr
Ting, So nice to talk to you! No "proper welcome back" is necessary my friend. I know what it is like to be super busy....
I think we decided today to wait on the moving in together, we both know it's premature. It's just hard to say goodbye all the time. I think I would be happy either way.
Take care, thanks for the input - love and hugs, Sandra
Sandr
I don't want any regrets, if she is going to be my partner for life we can wait.
Hugs, Sandra
Sandr
Thanks for your advice and sharing your story.
Huge hugs, Sandra
Sandr
Sounds like she has a great house, but hope she won't be always reminding you that you can't do this or that in "HER" house.
I would stick to what you feel is right. If you spend more time at her house and it is feeling good then ease into it.
I can certainly understand not wanting to pick up and suddenly move in.
Is she afraid to stay there alone?
Laurie
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Funny you should ask if she is afraid, I would be. Her house is down a loooong gravel driveway, in the middle of the woods. I don't even know if I could live there, I'm not the country living type of girl. There are probably creatures out in them woods! LOL
As for it being "her" house. I think I may feel like that a little. I think Leanne and I need to stay there a few (hundred) times before we move in.
I miss you Laurie!
Hugs, Sandra
Sandr
At least here in the city you can rest comfortably knowing that the strange noises you are hearing are at someone elses house, lol.
Also, I take comfort in knowing that no one would rob my house, all my neighbors will be at the big houses to do that kind of business. lol.
Tell her you will move in when she has Brinks and 6 Rottwielers.
I would scatter some old bones around the yard too, to scare off the bad guys when they hear those doggies barking.
I miss you too Sandra, don't be a stranger anymore.
Laurie
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