Quick Update for now..

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Quick Update for now..
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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 10:40pm



((((((((Hugs)))))))


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Registered: 02-15-2004
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 1:53am

Uh, again I ask for your forgiveness, but what is wrong with ~S~? Doesn't she realize that the game she's playing, in my opinion, is one that she will loose? And believe me that is a game left for kids to play and not for grown women? How can ~S~ think that someone's going to change things, now that she has caused all of the heartache and unbelieveable anguish and pain?

In my opinion, ~S~ should have though about what would happen if something like this would happen (well, it happened anyway). Unbelieveable. Oh by the way, she would have gotten herself up. I wouldn't waste my time calling her to wake her up. If she were woman enough, she would talk with you face to face, and cry in front of you to show you the real tears. Personally, I think they're just crocodile tears. You don't tell your girlfriend(as far as I'm concerned, wife of 8 years) that you've been talking to someone else, whether they're real or not, just because your stressed out and tired. That would be a reason for me to pack my stuff, leave and not come back.

I don't care if it's one day or twenty days that ~S~ will be working with this........
If my girlfriend and I were having problems, I wouldn't talk to another woman, would talk with my girlfriend herself, considering that she's the one I'm having issues with, and not with a strange woman that I'm working with!!!!!!!

Guilt is a terrible thing, isn't it? ~S~ should have been attentive all along, not when her back is up against the wall, and before this.... came along.

I'm sorry. That's just how I feel about it.

Gentle hugs!

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Registered: 09-30-2003
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 5:56am

Cat, I'm stunned that this is happening to you, hon. What on earth would possess S to lie about a supposed woman she has feelings for? Why would she want to hurt you like that?


I'm confused by the whole situation. God knows how

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Registered: 01-31-2005
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 10:44am

Oh Cat, what a mess! I'm so sorry ~S~ is being so difficult. I agree with Lou, though, be careful with the spying thing. I've been on the other side, and it can cause a lot of hurt and problems. Yes, she has hurt you, but it seems to me that now is the time for total honesty on both of your parts. Hope I'm not being too forward or presumptuous. You know the situation best.


Sending lots of hugs and positive vibes your way.

Ting
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Registered: 09-10-2004
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 11:57am

(((((( Kitty Kat ))))))


That fact that 'S' is playing with your emotions is really getting me mad ! She will end up loosing the sweetest thing she will ever have. What is she thinking ?!


Sorry, I'm just extremly loyal to my friends and hate seeing them hurt.


Tight hugs,


Robin

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 1:06pm

Cat, you can't repair a betrayal of trust by violating trust.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 1:45pm

Well, Cat, I certainly understand your suspicion. I feel it, too! It's a little strange that she would make something like that up.


However it comes to light, I hope you get to the truth, so you can then decide where to go from here. I know that not knowing for sure what's going on must be really stressful!


{{{Hugs}}}


Jeanine

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Registered: 06-24-2004
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 3:07pm

CAT - Again I'm so sorry that you are hurting right now. But let's really think about the whole thing that you have planned out for tonight. There's way to much that could turn around and bite you on the butt. What if she has made this whole thing up.

You shouldn't have to be up all night stalking her(yes stalking). You should be able to trust her. Your tooooo good to do something like thing. Don't make her lower your standard or play games.

Just take the number that called her phone and call it and ask for Carol (not using any number that she would know - friends phone, pay phone, work phone etc.) Be very kind and sweet when you say in sweet little voice hello is Carol home.

I've been very worried about you lately. I don't want you doing anything that can get you in trouble, can be thrown up in your face later, or make you not act like yourself.

I hope you really think about your plan.

Praying for you to have strength, wisdom, luck and healing.

Hugs,

Angel

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Registered: 06-03-2005
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 5:36pm

(((((((((CAT)))))))))))

More hugs! You are on constant hug supply right now. :)

Be careful okay! And, here's a suggestion...Have you thought about the both of you talking to a therapist? Or, have someone you know mediate your discussions about this? Just a thought...

More hugs... (((((((CAT))))))

rj

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Registered: 06-26-2005
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 7:14pm
ok my two cents......spying is bad...ok
we all want to find that lady we can trust,love.....I feel like when we have someone's heart we can feel it....I have at least known a few times....
but we think we are with people we can trust.....and I am sorry cat but after 9 years there is a sense of security.....all I know is that...we never expect and then bam...but -S- sounds like she is playing???
wheather it is playing with emotions or whatever but after getting to know cat here for a long time and the good things I hear about -S- I am so lost....
with my most recent ex she started acted dumb,she invaded my privacy.....then later out of curiousity yeah I picked up her cell and there's the ex's number dialed the day before my b-day....happy b-day to me...
no two wrongs never make a right....
chas and I used to do everything in front of each other....
I am an open book and the next person I date will be also....
all I know is that cat sometimes we have to know....
I don't say it's right but well if you can't get her to tell you then............
all I know is that as your friend I support you....
you have always listened to me and well sometimes you had your own problems,yet listened to me anyway,....
I hope you find out you are wrong and I am sorry but if I had kept changing my story...I would expect to be looked in on seriously...
I have dated people who have been hurt and anytime I first start dating someone I invite them to be nosey and see who is on my cell whatever....cause I want them to know I am straight up .....
cat I am saying do what you have to.....to help you....it seems (not speaking bad of her) that -S- is not helping right now ,not re-issuring you enough that you guys will be ok and well you are gonna do it regardless I imagine,....(((HUGS)))
Jo