Things Not Looking Good For Me
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Things Not Looking Good For Me
| Thu, 08-11-2005 - 12:08am |
After Sheila and I talked about what Cat and ~S~ Have been going through I said, well at least cat has good intuition. I guess mine has been off for three years. Which is how long we have not had sex, Sheila and I. I told her I will ask her one more time what is wrong and this time I expect the truth too.
She kept twisting and pulling her ring off and finally admitted she has not been physically attracted to me since I have been putting on weight. The most of it in the last 2 years.
She swears she is still in love with me and there is no room in her heart for anyone else.
So, this afternoon we go to my doctor's appt. and find out I have a large tumor on my thyroid and a large lymph tissue growing around my neck. (I have thought it was just fat from gaining weight. My thyroid is very low to nothing. The tumor must have been growing a long time and not detected because it is hard to detect while it is behind bone and tissue.
My blood sugar is way out of control possibly due to the thyroid. This is probably why I am so tired and have gained and cannot seem to lose weight.
Half of me was relieved to hear it and for Sheila to hear that I am not just a fat, lazy person.
I also have been running a low fever between 99.5 and 100 degrees for months. I am also very dehydrated.
I have to go back for a biopsy of course.
So finally after 3 years of feeling like I am a no good ugly person, I have some answers, all in one day. And not the answers I wanted to hear, but answers that can possibly fix the misery I have been living with for the past three years. Feeling sick, emotional, unwanted and unattractive and just so miserable. I am very happy to have finally found some answers.
I can only hope Sheila will be able to be attracted to me again someday. She told me that a woman she works with lost 50 pounds after going on thyroid meds and hopes I will get to go on them.
Very comforting. I am hoping the biopsy is going to be fine for the lymph thing and the thyroid. I know most biopsies do come back benign and I will try to keep a positive attitude about it.
We still do love each other very much. We plan to work on this. I hope this will be the answer to my weight gain. I have been blaming my drugs.
Cat, please call, I am not sure that the tape recorder is a good idea. I know I gave you the idea and I do not want you to wreck anymore trust between the two of you. Hey at least you learned how to fix the recorder and use it for recording your feelings.
But wow! Where there is a will there is a way, you were so determined and fixed the darn thing!
Very bizzar for her to make up a story like that if indeed she did make it up. I think she wants to stay with you or she would tell you she is not sure what she wants.
Please understand I am not justifying these affairs of the heart. I just know they do not always have to mean the end of a relationship or that a person fall out of love with their partner.
Odd that both of our relationship started at the same time 8 years ago and having the same trouble now. I hope both of our relationships can withstand this turn they have taken.
I hope that someone who has been in a longer relationship can tell us of their experience.
I like to hear success stories and I hope that cat you and I will be a success story too.
I hope spy night goes well and gives you nothing to worry about. Please do not get caugt with the tape. I am thinking it is a bad idea.
I wish I was a better person. I wish I could take all the bad and wrong things I have done back. Not sure I can ever make up for them, but I will die trying and hopefully not to soon. lol.
She kept twisting and pulling her ring off and finally admitted she has not been physically attracted to me since I have been putting on weight. The most of it in the last 2 years.
She swears she is still in love with me and there is no room in her heart for anyone else.
So, this afternoon we go to my doctor's appt. and find out I have a large tumor on my thyroid and a large lymph tissue growing around my neck. (I have thought it was just fat from gaining weight. My thyroid is very low to nothing. The tumor must have been growing a long time and not detected because it is hard to detect while it is behind bone and tissue.
My blood sugar is way out of control possibly due to the thyroid. This is probably why I am so tired and have gained and cannot seem to lose weight.
Half of me was relieved to hear it and for Sheila to hear that I am not just a fat, lazy person.
I also have been running a low fever between 99.5 and 100 degrees for months. I am also very dehydrated.
I have to go back for a biopsy of course.
So finally after 3 years of feeling like I am a no good ugly person, I have some answers, all in one day. And not the answers I wanted to hear, but answers that can possibly fix the misery I have been living with for the past three years. Feeling sick, emotional, unwanted and unattractive and just so miserable. I am very happy to have finally found some answers.
I can only hope Sheila will be able to be attracted to me again someday. She told me that a woman she works with lost 50 pounds after going on thyroid meds and hopes I will get to go on them.
Very comforting. I am hoping the biopsy is going to be fine for the lymph thing and the thyroid. I know most biopsies do come back benign and I will try to keep a positive attitude about it.
We still do love each other very much. We plan to work on this. I hope this will be the answer to my weight gain. I have been blaming my drugs.
Cat, please call, I am not sure that the tape recorder is a good idea. I know I gave you the idea and I do not want you to wreck anymore trust between the two of you. Hey at least you learned how to fix the recorder and use it for recording your feelings.
But wow! Where there is a will there is a way, you were so determined and fixed the darn thing!
Very bizzar for her to make up a story like that if indeed she did make it up. I think she wants to stay with you or she would tell you she is not sure what she wants.
Please understand I am not justifying these affairs of the heart. I just know they do not always have to mean the end of a relationship or that a person fall out of love with their partner.
Odd that both of our relationship started at the same time 8 years ago and having the same trouble now. I hope both of our relationships can withstand this turn they have taken.
I hope that someone who has been in a longer relationship can tell us of their experience.
I like to hear success stories and I hope that cat you and I will be a success story too.
I hope spy night goes well and gives you nothing to worry about. Please do not get caugt with the tape. I am thinking it is a bad idea.
I wish I was a better person. I wish I could take all the bad and wrong things I have done back. Not sure I can ever make up for them, but I will die trying and hopefully not to soon. lol.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Hi Laurie,I'm sorry I've been away this week!!
C >^. A .
We fell asleep around 10:00 lastnight watching something boring on T.V. We never heard the phone. When is a good time to call?
Can't wait to hear the good news!!
You are so loved here, of course everyone is supportive of you, our kitty cat. We have so many wonderful women here!
You are always so supportive of everyone else to.
Ring my phone twice when it is a good time to call, I do not want to wake ~S~ if she is sleeping from her shift.
Lol, we have plenty of chicken!!
Laurie
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Yes, Sheila still love me very much. The weight is something we can fix. It is not like something that can never be changed.
I don't blame her I just feel so unattractive. I have put on the weight. Not the same as I looked when we met.
I hear it from my family too. They are all meaning well.
I guess if I watched Sheila let herself go so her appearance changed to this point it would bother me too.
I know it sounds so shallow but it does change a person as far as my feeling good about myself, I have insecurities, and feel unattractive etc. because of my weight gain. My clothes don't fit and I have nothing sexy to wear.
I was always thinking she was wanting someone else. I was in such great shape when we met. Riding my bike for miles and going white water rafting and canoeing etc. Wearing nice clothes.
I/we are not saying being over weight is unattractive. Because most of my ex's have been a bit overweight, it is just that I am not the same person both physically and emotionally because I allow it to consume me with insecurities.
We have talked and cried about this over the last three years, She just never addmitted that it was the weight and the changes in me because of it. She did not want to hurt me. But it made me think that she was wanting someone else and I was always asking her if there is someone else because I never had an answer.
Now I have some answers, not all so great, but at least I can change them.
Laurie
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(((((Laurie)))))
I know the truth hurts like heck but without it, you can't move on in your relationship.
Sending lots of love and healing angels.
Hugs from Pam
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I have missed you so much!
Yes, the truth can hurt however, this is a truth that we know something can be done about.
I believe her now when she say's she is still very much in love with me. I know we can get through this. I also have been given hope (concerning my weight ) from my doctor. She promised that once we get my healtth issues under control the weight will come off.
It has been frustrating because it, the weight gain, is uncomfortable to me physically and no matter what I do it does not come off.
Anyway, it is so nice to see you here!!
Laurie
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(((((((Laurie)))))))
Losing weight is no easy task; especially when you have health issues to deal with.
Pieces of My Life
It really feels good to have you here!
and thank you.
Laurie
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I do declare it's good to be home on our well used cyber couch.
Are those Nony's chocolate hand prints I see all over the walls?
Hugs from Pam
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