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Checking them out
| Sat, 08-20-2005 - 3:48pm |
Has anyone here ever took the extra time to check
on some one you met. Have you spied on them?
have you researched for more to know if what they
are saying is true?
Back ground check maybe?
Is there any clues to maybe what they are saying isn't true?
Do actions really speak louder than words??
Lea

I don't have enough experience to properly respond. So, I hope that is okay. Anyway, I've never had anyone checked out. Doesn't mean that I wouldn't consider it though. It would depend on the situation. If your instinct is telling you something isn't quite right, LISTEN. It could be something minor- like you and the other person aren't on the same page- or it could be something serious. I always opt for getting to know someone slowly. Take small steps. It allows you to see more of the person. Sooner or later, people stop showing their best side and begin showing their real side. During the first stages of dating, I've heard that most people usually try awfully hard to show their best side. So, by taking it slow, you'll eventually see the real person.
Actions do speak louder than words. If their actions are not lining up with their words, beware. I scare easily. I pay close attention to someone's actions. Because, people will tell you anything. And, some will tell you what they think you want to hear.
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rj
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Edited 8/21/2005 1:54 am ET ET by lifesajourney1974
Hi Lea,
With all of the women that I've dated, I've never had reason to check up on or have anyone spy for me. If I can't get any honesty from the beginning, then I don't even bother, so far, I haven't been disappointed. I can agree with andie, sometimes the person that you just met, might just say anything. That's why whenever you do the online dating thing, they have suggestions that you should follow. For example, meeting them in a public place, where there are people, and if you want to bring a friend and they can bring a friend, then do it.
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Sebastian
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Hi Lea!
The whole idea freaks me out.
Pieces of My Life
No I don't spy on people. Usually they reveal themselves in time. I did however, call about a perverted Boy Scout Leader who hugged my son and laid on the floor next to him. I was extremely upset because this was the first time he had met my son and I, I thought it was too much, too fast. This guy was at least 72 or more years old, and he was traveling over 70 miles from his home town. We found out that every unit he was with, had parental complaints about his affectionate behavior towards the boys.
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