Being kicked to curb...

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Being kicked to curb...
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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 4:57pm
Well, my green eyed lady kicked me to the curb today... it seems the lady she has been dating for a month and half is jealous.. so in green eyed lady's words "we need to cool it"

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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 5:07pm

Pooh, I don't mean any harm, but is this lady worth it? How many times are you going to allow her to hurt your feelings? How many other green eyed ladies are there in the world?

Allowed? Allowed????!!!! I'd really go and find someone else to be friends with and possibly love.

Sorry, if I offended you. But you really could do better than her.

 


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Sebastian


 


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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 5:21pm
Not offended Gigi - I know you are right... and that's what I'm trying to do.. move on.
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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 7:00pm

Hey pooh. I think I was telling you the other night that anyone who would give up a true friend for someone they're "dating" does not know what they're losing. I have been in "green eyed ladie's" shoes, given up my friends for someone. You know what? I regretted it. The relationship did not work out - probably due in part to the fact that I could not handle being manipulated into a controlling and territorial situation.


You already know that you cannot tell her anything about how you feel right now, as you will just come off as sounding jealous. It seems that she has made up her mind and that is that. At least for now. It is up to you to decide whether you want to remain friends from a distance and still be there if (or when) the other woman is gone.


I really am sorry to see you go through this. I wish I could tell you why she is letting this woman alienate herself from you, but since I cannot give a valid explanation as to why I did the same, all I can do is gove you some warm (((((hugs))))) and a shoulder if ya need.

 

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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 7:11pm
Thanks Beth!! I really appreciate it... it does hurt right now.. hurts like heck.. I just feel so rejected - I was willing to be friends - had accepted that we would only be friends - but now... she even threw that back in my face.
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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 7:15pm
Hey pooh
well i told you my thoughts and well I still believe them.I know you don't like what my thoughts were but just think about it....
you deserve better :)....we all deserve to be treated well.....have a good one,Jo
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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 7:16pm
Wow Pooh, I am sorry to hear this. First of all if a her g/f is pretty new and already telling her who she can or can't be friends with she is going to be a very lonely person one day. It only gets worse.
In our 8 years Sheila and I have never told each other who we can or cannot be friends with or talk to. We have both had people in our lives who wanted to be with one or the other of us during our eight years and still remain friends with those people. You can't tell someone how to feel about another person.
It is not right for someone to take even the friendship away. This woman is very insecure, jealous, selfish, and controling. Your greeneyed lady is going to find that out eventually.
Just because someone is interested in your partner does not mean that your partner will run off with them.
And isolating your partner from the rest of the world will only make your partner tired of you.
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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 7:45pm

(((((Pooh))))))

Sorry about that. Hope you get to feeling better. hugs!




Edited 8/23/2005 9:19 pm ET ET by andie_grrl
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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 9:07pm

Pooh,


I am so sorry to hear about thie green eyed lady kicking you to the curb!

Carol,  In love with the most beautiful woman in the world.

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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 9:26pm

Thank you Sunshine!!

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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 9:32pm

Thank You Laurie!!

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