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Tue, 09-13-2005 - 10:19am
Thank you so much ladies for the wonderful advice. I have asked myself some hard questions through this process. No, i don't feel i want to end things with C. I also realized that I was backing her in a corner for a decision and we had a conversation about that and I apologize to her and she accepted that. She realizes it is hard for both of us. One thing about C. she is a great person,sensitive and compassionate woman. We are so similar with many things. She has said in the past she likes me more than she expected.
Also, she has said to me, that no one in past relationships or dating has been honest or open about emotions, feelings and communication. She apprecipates the fact I feel comfortable and safe enough to do that with her. I have learned so much about myself in recent months about dating , what kind of person I am and we both are trying hard to have a healthy dating relationship. I think we have a good start and we both want to continue to getting to know each other. I have also been working with a therapist. I also know that it is not about me and she has told me that. I know that it isn't me and it is her issues. I have given her the space she needs. She has been calling after work for check in and again before bedtime. She needed some errands run today, so I asked if i could get the mulch for the garden and other things for her, she told me that it would be helpful. She came by and gave me the money and a quick hug :). I know she needs to feel safe and needs to trust me. I respect her for opening up her heart to me. It is not easy baring one soul after such abuse and uncertainity. I am a patience person and willing to wait and see how things progress in the months ahead. I don't feel that i am compromising myself either. I actually feel at peace and content, for the most part with this situation. I also know again, it is hard work and we all are a work in progress.
Everyone have a great week! gracemae59
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Tue, 09-13-2005 - 10:22am

Wise decision.

 


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Sebastian


 


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Tue, 09-13-2005 - 10:47am
Sounds good gracemea. I hope it all goes well for you both.
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In reply to: gracemae59
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 4:46pm

Hope it all works out gracemae.

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Tue, 09-13-2005 - 10:50pm

That is so cool Gracemae.