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| Fri, 11-04-2005 - 9:47am |
I am having a bit of a dilemma. I really like my girl, and I am hopefully going to go down to Georgia to visit her over my Christmas break from college. I feel like I should tell my parents about her, though, because she is becoming a really important part of my life, and I am really hoping that we will start up a serious relationship. She makes me really happy, and I want to share my happiness with my parents, but I don't know how they will react. They don't even know that I am bi. I asked my mom once theoretically if she would accept it if I were gay, and she said that she would still love me because she would just want me to be happy. I've never talked to my dad about it. I know that they wouldn't, like, cut me off or anything, but I'm afraid of disappointing them and I'm even a little afraid that they will be angry at me or love me less.
How did your parents react when you came out or told them about your first serious relationship with another girl? Is anyone else in a similar situation? Does anyone have any advice for me? I feel really alone and afraid right now...

I think mom gave you a good clue.
Pieces of My Life
Thanks for the advice - it really made me feel a lot better. The funny thing is, I am really feminine and my favorite color is pink, so no one ever suspects anything until I actually come right out and tell them. I'm sorry that you weren't close enough with your mom to tell her. I definitely want to tell both of my parents, but I don't think I will ever be able to tell my grandma. And I'm not sure about my aunts and uncles. I think that my dad's side of the family would probably accept it, and actually my mom's side probably would, too, but I'm not really very close with my mom's side of the family, so I probably wouldn't tell them. But anyway, I need to head off to class soon. Again, thank you so much for your wonderful advice. It was really kind of you to share your story with me. It really helps to know that other people have gone through the same things I am going through, and that they have turned out fine.
I hope that you have a wonderful weekend! I'll keep you updated on what is going on with me.
I agree with Pam 100%.
Judy