What is wrong with me??

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Registered: 11-15-2004
What is wrong with me??
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Mon, 11-07-2005 - 1:05am

I'm really depressed because I'm so jealous of my girl's best friend. I know that I am being a complete jerk, and that I should be happy that she has such an amazingly close friend. I guess I'm just envious because she gets to spend so much time with her friend, and her friend is way prettier and thinner than me.

I can also feel myself lapsing back into my old, bad eating behaviors. I just bought some more diet pills at GNC today, which I probably should not have done, and I can feel myself getting all excited at the prospect of going on a new diet (which really means just eating as little as possible).

I don't know what is going on with me. I care about her so much.

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Registered: 02-04-2005
Mon, 11-07-2005 - 1:33am
Pink,
Becareful not to let jealousy rear it's ugly head. That is a sure way to lose a partner. She has had this best friend before you were in the picture and she will keep her if you are not in the picture.
Be gratefull she has plenty of room for you in her life.
Give her and her best friend a break! There are friends and there are g/f. I am sure they both know the difference.
I don't want to sound harsh here, but the worst thing you can do is be jealous of a partners bestfriend. This is probably the person she talks to about how she feels about you etc. So this bestfriend is helping her along when she is frustrated that she cannot be with you.
Give this friend a chance so that your g/f won't feel caught in the middle.
Try to learn more about the friend and what she is going through, likes to do etc. Try to like her.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Mon, 11-07-2005 - 8:47am
I know that you are absolutely right. Thank you so much for being lovingly honest with me. It was exactly what I needed to hear. I hope that you are having a great day!!
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Registered: 03-30-2003
Mon, 11-07-2005 - 8:53am

(((((Star)))))


It's understandable that you would feel some jealousy.

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Mon, 11-07-2005 - 10:09am

One of the problems is that I don't really have any close girl friends. My friends are mostly guys. I think it bothers her a bit since she knows that I've had relationships with guys before. On some level, I think that she is worried that I will leave her for a guy. I definitely won't, though. I really, really like her. She's the only one I want. I just need to trust that I am the only one that she wants, too.

Thanks for your advice! You are wonderful. I hope that you had a great weekend and that your week is going well!

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Registered: 02-04-2005
Mon, 11-07-2005 - 3:41pm
I am glad you understand it is out of love that I told you those things.
Jealousy can ruin a relationship fast!
Hugs,
Laurie
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Mon, 11-07-2005 - 9:13pm

Awwwww!