Why don't I ever learn??
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| Tue, 11-08-2005 - 12:35am |
I'm having a problem with sharing my feelings too soon into my relationship. I guess that I am just letting myself get carried away. I know that it is good to be honest, but I think that there is such a thing as sharing too much too soon, and it really is never good for the relationship. I always seem to fall into this trap. You would think I would learn my lesson, but apparently, I haven't, because I find myself doing it again. It is times like this that I feel really awful about myself, and I really wonder if I am even worth being with. But anyway, I'm not going to get stuck in self-doubt and all that because I'm supposed to be talking about my problem.
I haven't known my girl for very long, and I know that I am being way too forward by some of the things that I have said to her. For example, tonight I told her that I think I'm falling in love with her, which is not really a good thing to say to someone that you haven't known that long. It's true, but I still should really learn to keep my mouth shut. Everyone told me, quite rightly, not to be jealous and not to be too forward. It seems as though I am failing miserably. I want to take the great advice that has been given to me, but I keep messing up.
What can I do to stop feeling so compelled to share my feelings with my girl? Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can keep my thoughts to myself? I am beginning to fear that I will end up girlfriend-less if I can't get it together.

Sometimes we read more into a situation than we realize and then oops, the cat is loose (L Word) and it's hard to catch that bugger and take it back.
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halo
I'd really listen to Halo. That was brilliant and I couldn't agree more.
many *hugs* to you, pink.
Hey sweet pea!
Pieces of My Life
I don't post here much so I hope I am not out of line...I
You can write about your feelings instead of telling a new g/f to much to soon. Besides you never know, the more you get to know that person, if your feelings might change. Maybe even change into not really being in love.
Sometimes we can easily confuse that infatuation with falling in love. Then when the infatuation subsides you realize you are not in love. So it is best to tell yourself to put the breaks on and be sure of your feelings as they grow one way or the other as you get to know this person more.
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