Of course you can rant here. We're here to be supportive and helpful. I'm so sorry about everything hitting you at once. I'm sure your girl got caught blindsided by the question at BUNCO about her divorce, but I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt you with what she said. I got the same question when I divorced.
Hopefully your ex will not quit his job yet. Surely he needs to get through the holidays before making that kind of decision. You have legal protection, though, right?
{{{{{{{{{Daronda}}}}}}}}}. I've never had any experience in divorce, but I have experience in telling someone to mind their business. If it's possible to talk with your sweetheart, in private, about how you feel about her comment, then sit down and have a private conversation with her about how you feel.
Self-esteem is defined by having Confidence, and self-respect. Everything that the both of you are going through, her graduating from graduate school, work and other important things are going to happen. Auntie Flo, your ex, bad weather and a natural disaster are only temporary things. If he's stupid enough to quit one job, and not have another one to go to, then maybe you should contact your lawyer, so things can be straightened out. Look in the mirror, every morning and say, "I am a good person, I can withstand all things, I can get through anything, I am a strong woman." You deserve a relationship, where there is open communication at all times, and not at times of trouble and insanity.
You're not being stupid, you're being honest and real about your feelings. I would be concerned about certain losses. But, if I loved someone that loves me back, in my opinion, insecurities will always be there. Like I said, I have no experience with divorce, but everytime I encounter a woman that has been divorced, I have to sit back and let her go through the feelings that she needs to go through, and I must admit, I have my insecurities also. I've heard comments like that, and they sit in the pit of my stomach. But, if my relationship is a growing relationship, I know that I should be able to talk with my gf, honestly, and being real about how I'm feeling.
{{{{{{Daronda}}}}}}}. In my opinion, you're doing ok. Keep venting and asking questions, everyone here supports you!
Daronda, Not wanting to talk badly about an ex does not mean that a person wants to go back to that ex. Honest. I have an ex that I don't have one bad word to say about. But I/we would not get back together again. Plus, it is nice of your g/f not to bad talk her ex. It is nice to know that incase... It just shows respect. I hope your ex does find a job before quitting this one. 65 hours is alot. He must be exhausted. I hope for your sake he finds a new one first. We have had 6 confirmed tornadoes hit down so far and the sirens are going off right now. We don't have a basement. The sirens are always eery.
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Of course you can rant here. We're here to be supportive and helpful. I'm so sorry about everything hitting you at once. I'm sure your girl got caught blindsided by the question at BUNCO about her divorce, but I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt you with what she said. I got the same question when I divorced.
Hopefully your ex will not quit his job yet. Surely he needs to get through the holidays before making that kind of decision. You have legal protection, though, right?
Take a deep breath and try to relax.
Hugs,
Thanks for taking the time to respond, I really appreciate it.
{{{{{{{{{Daronda}}}}}}}}}. I've never had any experience in divorce, but I have experience in telling someone to mind their business. If it's possible to talk with your sweetheart, in private, about how you feel about her comment, then sit down and have a private conversation with her about how you feel.
Self-esteem is defined by having Confidence, and self-respect. Everything that the both of you are going through, her graduating from graduate school, work and other important things are going to happen. Auntie Flo, your ex, bad weather and a natural disaster are only temporary things. If he's stupid enough to quit one job, and not have another one to go to, then maybe you should contact your lawyer, so things can be straightened out. Look in the mirror, every morning and say, "I am a good person, I can withstand all things, I can get through anything, I am a strong woman." You deserve a relationship, where there is open communication at all times, and not at times of trouble and insanity.
I hope that helps.
Hugs!
p.s. Rant and rave all you like!
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Sebastian
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You're not being stupid, you're being honest and real about your feelings. I would be concerned about certain losses. But, if I loved someone that loves me back, in my opinion, insecurities will always be there. Like I said, I have no experience with divorce, but everytime I encounter a woman that has been divorced, I have to sit back and let her go through the feelings that she needs to go through, and I must admit, I have my insecurities also. I've heard comments like that, and they sit in the pit of my stomach. But, if my relationship is a growing relationship, I know that I should be able to talk with my gf, honestly, and being real about how I'm feeling.
{{{{{{Daronda}}}}}}}. In my opinion, you're doing ok. Keep venting and asking questions, everyone here supports you!
Hugs!
Hugs,
Sebastian
http://www.facebook.com/sebastianbruce
Not wanting to talk badly about an ex does not mean that a person wants to go back to that ex. Honest. I have an ex that I don't have one bad word to say about. But I/we would not get back together again. Plus, it is nice of your g/f not to bad talk her ex. It is nice to know that incase... It just shows respect.
I hope your ex does find a job before quitting this one. 65 hours is alot. He must be exhausted. I hope for your sake he finds a new one first.
We have had 6 confirmed tornadoes hit down so far and the sirens are going off right now. We don't have a basement.
The sirens are always eery.
Laurie
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I agree 100%.
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Oh Laurie, please be safe!
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