Meeting the Parents (v. long)
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| Mon, 11-28-2005 - 10:30am |
Finally, after a year of struggles, frustrations, and finally some victories I met Caly's parents. For those of you who know about the situation it was a really huge deal for me to meet them and for Caly to see them. I won't go into all the sordid details, but for those of you who don't know, Caly and her mother have had a very strained relationship all her life. Within the past year or so, her mother found out that Caly is a lesbian, that she has a long-term partner, and that none of it is going away, much to her dismay! Through a series of emotional phone calls and letters over the past six months, Caly and her mom went from barely speaking to each other to having a pleasant relationship again, one in which Caly demands respect and gets it, at least on some level. I'm really proud of how well she has stood up for herself and has refused to take criticism for her choices from her mother anymore. Her mother knows not one iota about me but has assumed from day one that I'm a bad person, that I took Caly away from her DS, and that I've destroyed my own DDs' lives.
So, that's a bit of history and perspective


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Thanks for your support, Laurie. We are lucky in that we've gotten this far. You're right, it hasn't been that long since she found out all of this.
LOVE the Cardiac Mothers Club idea! That's perfect!
Hugs,
Ting
Thanks, Sheri. It was a good day overall. We will keep the door open. As I said to Caly, I didn't give her any fodder for her opinions or confirm her assumptions. I'm an average Jane, not out to hurt anyone.
Hugs,
Ting
I think one of the things that well all do, on some level, is to think that something is being done "to" us, when it's not about us at all.
Great thoughts, Sherri. Thanks!
I do agree with what you said. Like I said earlier, we hoped for a warmer reception, and I couldn't help but feel a bit of hurt. Despite any negative feelings I harbor about the situation, I will always take the high road. We're going to have DD write Caly's mom a thank you note for the advent calendars, and I want to send a thank you note to Caly's bro and SIL for being so kind and welcoming to me.
Hugs,
Ting
I can agree that it must be very hot down in Valdosta. I was even considering visiting my mom's home state, with my mom (talk about tempting fate,lol) but the heat would absolutely kill me.
Hugs!
Gigi
Hugs,
Sebastian
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Thanks for all the great comments everyone!
It was a big step for both my Mother and for me.
aka
Reading your post was like
Judy
She told me once that when you have Kids you are suppose to give up your own happiness, which makes me sad to think she feels that way.
Thanks for your support, Judy. It's a tedious road to walk together, but we'll make it.
Hugs,
Ting
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