When are you officially dating?

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Registered: 11-29-2004
When are you officially dating?
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Wed, 12-07-2005 - 5:07am

Laurie and I had a great discussion yesterday about dating.

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halo

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Registered: 02-15-2004
Wed, 12-07-2005 - 7:13am


My experience is this... When I first meet a woman, several things must be present: a postive attitude, sense of humor, intelligence, and sexual attraction.I'm not a fast woman, I always take my time. If we meet for a long period of time, and as you stated, me getting to know her and she gets to know me. If she feels comfortable enough to hold my hand, kiss me, and become affectionate, and then finally have sex, then, in my personal experience, yes, we're dating.

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Wed, 12-07-2005 - 9:39am

I see dating in a couple of ways. I'm not too qualified to answer this question because I didn't date a lot as a teenager or adult. But, I see it in a big picture way, meaning if a person is actively going out with a potential suitor(s) but not necessarily just one, then that's

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Registered: 05-26-2003
Wed, 12-07-2005 - 7:02pm

I always thought of dating as looking for someone to share special things at special times.

Judy

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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 11:27am
For Carol and I , we first started out as friends and getting to know each other, about a month after meeting we went on our first date, then a second date at that point we knew that there was something between us. So we have been dating each other for the past 6 months. We just had a conversation about are we a couple and I said yes ,because we are only seeing each other. She was in agreement. We hold hands,kiss and snuggle and that is such a great feeling. I am going to meet her family over the holidays, so I take that to be serious step in our dating relationship. We both have said we would like to continue dating each other at this time next year. We have both taken this slow and have gotten to know each other well.
I think that is what dating is , knowing the person and seeing if there is a spark to continue. I think my own thoughts, too many people jump right into the bed before actually knowing the person and what they are like.
For me , I still have these butterflies in my stomach and warm & fuzzy feelings, when Carol says me name or I hear her voice.
So that is my input. gracemae59
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Registered: 11-16-2005
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 12:30pm

So, all this talk about safe sex and dating begs the question, "Is there a special person in your life right now"?? ;-) Feel free to say "It's none of your beeswax, Ting!"


Hope all is going well for you on the relationship front.


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Ting

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Registered: 11-29-2004
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 4:18pm

No Ting I'm not dating anyone right now.

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halo

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Registered: 01-30-2005
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 9:21pm

I have never really casually dated more than one person at a time, so I have never had any questions about whether or not I was dating someone.

Carol,  In love with the most beautiful woman in the world.

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 9:25am

Ahhhhh, ok! I just had to ask! The dating thing is very confusing, isn't it? You're right about friendships though, they are the best. I'm sorry that I haven't nurtured my own anymore than I have.


I remember going to a high school homecoming dance with a guy I was good friends with. It was one of those relationships where we hung out all the time, but, at least on my part, there wasn't much more there than friendship. So, the night we went to the dance he asked me, "So, does this mean we're dating?" I really didn't know how to answer him. When we got to college, I think he was ready to start making some moves on me, but then I met XH and the rest is history!

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Sat, 12-10-2005 - 11:56pm
I liked dating. I think of dating as the people you go out with when you have that infatuation and attraction towards them. You want to see if it will lead to more. So you ask them out, or they ask you out on a date. You go to dinner or out dancing and you mostly dance together. You might hold hands or have some physical communication. Maybe kiss maybe not yet. You end up staying up late talking about everything.
If she wants to go home you bind her arms and legs and throw her in the trunk until she is convinced that it is not time yet. Then you lay in the back seat of the car and talk to her through the trunk for a long time to make sure she is still breathing... ~ sigh~ so romantic. haaaaaaa. Ok the last paragraph is not true, not even if you have seen the picture of Sheila in the trunk of our car. We took that picture because my Dad did not think our new car would have enough trunk space. Turns out I can stuff a lot of women in there, just kidding, I meant dates! NOT!
The first paragraph is a good indication of dating. When they call just to talk and you always have things to talk about and you laugh and giggle at each other's little stories and jokes. I could go on, but I will spare you.
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Sun, 12-11-2005 - 3:58am

Laurie welcome back, glad to see you are feeling better and your sense of humor is sharp as ever lolol.


Judy

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