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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 1:18pm

Well after two years adn what I thought were good times My SO tells me this morning that
she does not want to be with me and that she never was in love with me.

Right now I am trying to figure out what is happening here and where to go from here.

I am as low as low can be right now and NOTHING will get me out of it.

According to someone that we work with she has always been in LOVE with her ex adn I was just a past time for her

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 1:25pm
I'm so sorry Deb

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 1:56pm

((((((((Deb))))))))) SO sorry to hear this.


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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 4:24pm

 

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 11:25pm

Oh Deb!


{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}


I am so sorry.

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 11:48pm

Thanks guys for the hugs and thoughts, now that I have a minute I can tell you more.

Her ex left her for someone else about 3 yrs ago, and we work together, I was joking with her one night and said, "so you left your g/f yet?" and she said no she left me. we started talking and dating and went from there.

She had a duck that was a pet, but like her only child. (important info)

On our first anniversary I took her on a cruise, but she stayed in the cabin for the entire week complaining of sea sickness. After that when we got home she said You don't know me and I don't think this is working. I was supposed to know that she didn't like boats? We decided to work on things and everything was going well until about 3 months ago when her duck was killed by a Rotweiller. She was upset that I didnot try to take up for the duck, and then she got really depressed.

Went to a psych and got meds for depression, Effexor. Suddenly she decided that the meds made her not want to have sex anymore. Ok I can deal with that, I love her. Then she starts adding to the meds herself and starts adding Xanax, Vicodin, Valium, anything she could get. She works Fri,Sat Sun nite and would come home on Mond morning and go to bed until Fri time to go to work again.

In the past 6 months I have started to nursing school 4 days a week and work the other 3 7pm-7am. 2 weeks ago my son was put in the hospital with pneumonia and almost died so I spent 2 weeks in the hospital sleeping and going from there to work or school. when i asked for help one night she said "he's not my son, he's yours".

Now this morning she says I never did love you, and I don't want to be with you. Couple of hours later I tried talking to her about if I could have a little time to take finals before Christmas and get money together to move and she said "I want you to stay here until you graduate(2007) so I know that you will be ok"

Somebody please tell me what the TOS is going on here........

any ideas? BTW the first time she said this to me I found a place and started getting things ready to move and she told me please don't go, stay here.

I feel like the worlds biggest yo-yo

HELP !
Deb

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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 12:43am

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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 9:31am

I'm very- very sorry for your SO to break something so uncaring to you. I know that having that said to you has made you feel really bad.

But, your no less of a person than before. Your the same wonderful, loving, caring person!! This may be a time to heal yourself. They maybe a time to reflect on your self. This maybe the time to love yourself.

Time will heal either way this relationship may go.

I'm said you prayers!!
I'm send you warm arms to hold you!!

Angel

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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 10:47am

((((Deb)))) Your SO needs help. IMO she's not treating you fairly. She can't expect to say the things she does and treat you without respect and then beg for you to stay when you leave.


I don't know you well, but I know the situation well because I've experienced something similar. It's hard, especially when you're blindsided and when you love and care about a

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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 11:16am

Oh golly Deb!

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Fri, 12-16-2005 - 1:16am
Awwww deb, that must hurt deeply.
I am so sorry to hear it.
Stay strong, you deserve someone who will love you in return.
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