I was just wondering....

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Registered: 02-15-2004
I was just wondering....
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 4:32pm

I was over my my best friend's home this past week, and she made the comment: "It takes a woman a few seconds to check a man out, meaning front and back." "But it takes a man longer"

Now for me, I'm a butch, and I like to look at woman nice and slow, and not miss anything. I've done it in my past relationships, and at times I've gotten caught,(of course, I never said that I was an angel either) and I've always had to explain that I liked looking at her (the woman that I was in a relationship with at time).

And of course, the normal reaction that I received was a bit of the cold shoulder treatment, but after several minutes of apologizing, and explaining myself (something that won't happen again), everything was peaceful and quiet.

Now I ask ya, how would I go about checking out a hot babe. I'm not in a relationship, presently, but how do I check out a hot woman out, without getting in trouble?

Thanks!

 


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Sebastian


 


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Registered: 10-01-2005
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 7:16pm

Hey Gigi,

Happy holidays!

I do look at women. I do it often when grocery shopping or shopping in general. I saw a very gorgeous woman last month in Kohl's. She was absolutely breathtaking! I couldn't get enough of her, so I followed her around a bit. I don't think she ever once noticed that I was following her and getting some eye candy. Of course, the fact that I was grabbing clothing, holding it up, and then taking a peek probably kept my cover.

I try to be discrete with eye candy. To my knowledge, I've not been caught. If have been caught, it has not been brought to my attention.

Good question.

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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 7:41pm


Thank you, rj

I'll keep those suggestions in mind. That was very helpful. Of course, I know there are other ladies here that can add on to what you suggested.

Thanks again!

 


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Sebastian


 


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Registered: 11-16-2005
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 9:14am

I certainly don't notice beautiful women as often as I used to (wonder why?! hehehe), but pre-relationship when I would happen upon a particularly beautiful lady I would sometimes become mesmerized and not able to stop looking at her. I would keep my distance so as not to be noticeable. That was one of my clues in discovering I was a lesbian. I don't remember ever looking at men that way and being completely taken aback.


As far as getting caught, I never have. I'm a pretty reserved person anyway, so I'm not one to make my appearance well known unless I have/want to.


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Wed, 12-21-2005 - 9:51am

Thank you, Ting! what I mean by getting caught, is getting caught by the woman that I was with at the time. I know I should have explained it clearer. Sorry!

But thanks all the same!

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Registered: 12-18-2005
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 11:30am

Well prior to my relationship I would check women out at random points. I would do quick glances at the certain body parts that really interested me and if I wanted more then I would keep looking. I often pull the same antics about pretending to look at clothing while checking the women out. I also if I get balls enough go over to the same area and accidentally brush into her.

Pertaining to getting caught, surprising enough apologizing to her and then a gentle kiss on the lips lets her know that it happens but it means nothing.

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Wed, 12-21-2005 - 1:46pm

Thanks Carl, lol! Every time I did get caught, even though I did have to apologize, my former girlfriend would say, "Don't you find me attractive?" I would say that I did and meant it.

 


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Registered: 12-14-2005
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 2:47pm

Okay,
Here's what I have done. I am currently in a very committed relationship. We both know when a hottie walks by. To get a really good look, I pretend to be outraged by the "slutty" way the babe is dressed. "Oh, my god would you look at that? She shouldn't by wearing that, you can see everything! Then keep looking and pointing out things." Of course, we are so on to each other, that we just laugh about it later.

Good luck with that.

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Registered: 02-15-2004
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 4:25pm

Well that is a good suggestion, I think I'm too honest to be outraged because how she would be dressed. I would be too busy looking at the clothes that's wearing the woman. LOL!

Thanks and hugs!

 


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Sebastian


 


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Registered: 11-16-2005
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 5:08pm

Oh, I get it! LOLOL Hopefully the woman you're with won't feel threatened when you enjoy eye candy from time to time. It's perfectly natural to have those feelings. ;-)


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Registered: 10-04-2004
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 7:44pm

Hmmmmmm... depends what ya wish to know? What catches your attention, what intrigues you, what would you like to learn?

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And the mercy of the fallen
Who say hey it's not my place to know what's right

There's the weak and the strong
And the many stars that guide us
We have some of them inside us

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