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Registered: 10-31-2002
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 9:34am
Hi ladies, well I am feeling better and finished up the antibotics. I also got a job offer as a in home therapist, I really would like the job,it pays 21.00 an hr, full benefits, schedule flexible,do all the paperwork from home, But.... my case load is no more than 7 and I have to travel 45 mins.one way, also it pays only once a month, 3rd friday of the month, so if I start within two weeks, I have no income for a month and 1/2, none, nothing to live on or pay the bills, is it worth??? I am just not excited about, it's not a teaching job but in a way you are counseling & teaching. Counseling is another passion of work for me. Thoughts on this ladies...
Carol is getting better, she sees an ENT doctor on Monday.She hasn't been that affectionate which I can understand. I did ask her for a date on the 17th for a dance/dinner at our church, she said yes. I realize we have had no dates in quite awhile.
I told her that it is important that we set a night once a month for a date. She agreed.
I guess I am feeling a bit out of sorts today, and needed to vent.
Does this happen to anyone..... Carol likes to pick at my grammar, I have told her nicely that I know I need to work on stuff, but please don't correct me. She still does.
For instance, sometimes I will say Do you got something instead of Do you have ....
I think this comes from going to 10 schools and not learning the English language on how it suppose to be spoken. I feel when I am corrected that I am stupid, not smart. Carol tells me she isn't picking on me, but wants me learn how to speak the right way. I told her the last time she did this , that perhaps she needed a girlfriend that was better educate and knew how to speak. In turn, I hurt her feelings, which I felt bad.
Well enough rattling on...
Have a great week! gracemae59
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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: gracemae59
Thu, 02-09-2006 - 10:30am

Hi gracemae, I'm glad that things are working out for you. IRL, my best friend, will correct me about my sequence of explaining things, majority of the time she's right. I'm always in a hurry to explain things, that sometimes I forget the logical order of things.

Sometimes I have to stop and think, is that the correct order of events? Or, sometimes she'll say, "Could you explain that again? You've confused me." Then in my pea brain I say, "Wait, that sounded logical to me, why doesn't she understand?" Then I have to stop myself and say, "Wait, does she really know what I mean?" and if my answer is no, then I have to apologize and explain it clearer to her for her to understand.

Because I tend to isolate myself, unintentionally, of course. I justify the way that I think, and majority of the time I'm wrong. When I can look at myself and notice that the way that I speak is incorrect, then I humble myself and try to do something about it and not take it personally.

My friends love me and they wish to understand me, sometimes I have to accept constructive suggestions and try to change them, without becoming defensive or not willing to change or to make excuses about why I think like I think.

Change and acceptance of myself is always necessary.

Keep venting!

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Registered: 11-16-2005
In reply to: gracemae59
Thu, 02-09-2006 - 12:28pm

Hi Gracemae,


Glad you checked in. The home therapist job sounds like a good option to me, aside from the pay schedule issues. Did you write $21/hour? Wow! That sounds like a good salary. There are certainly a lot of factors to weigh. Maybe it could be something to tide you over.


As for the issue with Carol correcting your grammar, I'm sure that does feel uncomfortable. I'm guilty of that on occasion too. I'm an editor and can't help but notice almost every grammatical mistake that people make when talking or writing. This is especially true for my kids. DD2 doesn't use her tenses correctly yet, and it drives me bananas. Sometimes it's cute, though. I pretty much just keep my mouth shut with adults. It's not the end of the world.


Hope things will look up for you on all fronts. Keep in touch. Hugs!


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Registered: 09-29-2003
In reply to: gracemae59
Fri, 02-10-2006 - 11:51pm
Hi Grace.. Wow ! Thats good money an hour and with benefits.. Geez to bad a

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Registered: 08-26-2005
In reply to: gracemae59
Mon, 02-13-2006 - 4:32pm
Grammar is VERY important.
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Registered: 03-30-2003
In reply to: gracemae59
Mon, 02-13-2006 - 8:45pm
Hi Shadowboxer.
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Registered: 11-16-2005
In reply to: gracemae59
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 8:37am

Welcome Shadwboxer..Tell us more about yourself!


I have to agree with Pam, as important as grammar and presentation are, I think there are better ways to communicate that than the way Gracemae's girlfriend did.


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Registered: 10-31-2002
In reply to: gracemae59
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 1:22pm
Thank you for your input. Yes, I do have a Master's degree. I also have a learning disability in writing. I have worked very hard at changing and improving my writing skills. I feel that I communicate quite well with people. I know that there is room for improvement in my grammar, again I try very hard to make the neccessary corrections. I am not stupid or dumb, if people judge me for speaking incorrectly than that is their problem. I am not out to impress others, I am who I am. We all have flaws. I have told C that I am aware of the grammar infactions , and I am trying to change that area. I am hoping in the fall to take a basic english class at the community college for a refresher course in grammar and writing.
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