Holding hands?

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Registered: 11-15-2004
Holding hands?
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Thu, 02-16-2006 - 8:44pm
I'm not really into PDA, but I really want to be able to hold my girlfriend's hand in public. I realize, however, that this may not be well received by the general population. My girlfriend doesn't want to do it, especially in the south, because she says that people will say things to us. I was wondering what the rest of you thought? What have your experiences been with holding your girlfriend's hand in public? Has anyone ever said anything to you? Or if you don't hold your girlfriend's hand in public, what's the reason? Thanks for your help - I'm not sure how far off the mark I am, and I wanted to know what the rest of you thought.

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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: pinkstar84
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 9:13pm


Hey pinkie, that's a good question. Public displays of affection is a great issue to bring up.

Geographically speaking, I'm nowhere near the south. If you're not comfortable with holding hands with your girlfriend, in public then don't. In my opinion, which that's all that it is, I wouldn't care what people would say. With my past girlfriends, all of them had issues about it. In Delaware, the Conservatism stinks. Here it's "fashionable" to be gay or lesbian. (Of course, that may be everywhere). This is my life and not a fashion statement.

I'm not shy with being affectionate, in public ie. touching her hand, shoulder or hair. Believe it or not, I would even go as far as stroking her cheek(on her face). But as far as kissing, groping or any other intimate contact, for me; that's a definate no-no. If I wanted to do that, I would say, "Darling, you have something on your collar, would you like to go to the bathroom so we can wash it off?" And if she's paying attention, hopefully, she'll say, "Yes, honey. I do need your help." And then go into the bathroom with her and give her the hottest kiss I can, in a hurry.

Sometimes it makes me sick when I see two consenting adults get all ewwwwwww affectionate with each other. My attitude is, "Go and get a room!" LOL! But that's for something else though. In short, if you're not comfortable with it, then don't.

That's my experience.

Hugs!

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Registered: 02-01-2005
In reply to: pinkstar84
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 7:44am

Pink,


When we were in Vermont which is very accepting, I held TiNG's hand everywhere we went and it was wonderful.

 *Hugs ~  Caly

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Registered: 11-15-2004
In reply to: pinkstar84
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 8:45am
Thanks for sharing with me! You brought up a lot of good points. I hope that you are having a great weekend. The weather looks as though it is going to be really bad here. It's really snowy and windy. Hope you have a great day - talk to you soon!
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Registered: 11-15-2004
In reply to: pinkstar84
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 8:47am
Thanks for sharing your experiences with me! You bring up a lot of good points. I think I am going to spend a lot of time at the movies with my girlfriend because the theater is so dark that we will probably be able to hold hands or do the coat thing like you said. I wish that people everywhere were more accepting of gay and lesbian couples. It would be nice just to be able to hold hands in public like everyone else.
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Registered: 11-16-2005
In reply to: pinkstar84
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 10:10am

Like Caly said we are in the South, and we live in a community with a pretty big GLBT population, but it is very closeted. Fortunately, we have found places where we can socialize with GLBTs, but we are not totally out, especially at work. I also have two DDs in school and do not want to jeopardize any of their relationships with teachers, other parents, and friends. Fortunately, DD1's best friend's family knows about me and Caly and they are incredibly open and accepting.


So, I can understand why your g/f would not feel totally comfortable with PDAs. But, you'll probably find ways to show your affection that aren't obvious to the rest of the world.


Hugs and good luck!


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Registered: 02-13-2005
In reply to: pinkstar84
Sun, 02-19-2006 - 2:06pm

Helloo,
Wow, I’m really naive, I knew “the south” wasn’t – on the whole- open to such pda, but I never thought it would be a “problem” as such. It’s really sad that people aren’t accepting, for some reason I thought stuff like this would be easier as you get older.

Certain parts of Liverpool are quite open, me and my friends used to hold hands when we’d all been for a drink, everyone that I know who used to go in to town did it and it was just quite normal if people ended up sitting I each others laps etc.

Perhaps it will be less “acceptable” when we get older, it probably will.

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Registered: 11-15-2004
In reply to: pinkstar84
Sun, 02-19-2006 - 2:45pm

I don't know, but I think that England and Europe are more accepting of homosexuality than the United States in general.

I'm glad that you are sticking around the boards! I am having fun getting to know you. Hope you had a great weekend!

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Registered: 02-13-2005
In reply to: pinkstar84
Sun, 02-19-2006 - 3:27pm
Yeah, well I hope you get to hold your gf's hand somewhere, lol.
Thanks, hope you had a good weekend too, same here, I feel all welcome.
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Registered: 01-30-2005
In reply to: pinkstar84
Mon, 02-20-2006 - 8:15pm

Pink,


My gf and I do things that are discreet, yet still what feels right for us.

Carol,  In love with the most beautiful woman in the world.

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Registered: 09-29-2003
In reply to: pinkstar84
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 11:07pm
Hey Pink.. My partner and I are discreet in some places ..Very open in others..
Like in Northhampton a college town near by,

 C  >^. A .

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