Friend issues - please help!

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Registered: 11-15-2004
Friend issues - please help!
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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 8:32pm

I'm so frustrated right now with one of my friends. He has been interested in me as more than a friend since he met me, but the feeling has never been mutual, and I've made that very clear. He knows that I'm gay and that I have a girlfriend, but he doesn't seem to respect my relationship with her. He is always saying mean things about her to me, and he doesn't even know her. He also says things about how I would be happier with him if I just gave him a chance. I know that men aren't for me, though, and I don't appreciate the way that he treats me or my relationship with my girlfriend. He told me the other day that I'm "just too pretty to be a lesbian," which I don't think should have anything to do with it. I get sick of hearing things like that from men. I don't understand why he can't just accept my friendship and move on. There are lots of straight girls in the world that he could be pursuing. Sometimes I feel like men always want what they can't have, but now I'm just starting to stereotype, so I'll shut up.

I'm sorry for the rant, but I'm beginning to feel like he isn't even a real friend to me, and I'm starting to think about just ending the friendship. I feel as though I've given him a chance, and that if he doesn't respect my sexual orientation and the fact that I'm dedicated to my girlfriend, then maybe he's not worth my time. What do you think? Am I being too harsh? Should I try to gracefully end the friendship?

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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 11:04am
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