Is this a small victory?

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Is this a small victory?
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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 10:06pm

I wrote this in my blog today, I wanted to share it here and see if you ladies think its a victory or not? I live in the bible belt, small town Oklahoma, I kinda think it is...


Today when Leanne and Jennifer and I joined the gym there was a little problem when it came time to pay.

A couple for one month was 55.00
Single 35.00
Family 55.00 (for the couple) and 15.00 (for any children) = 70.00

SO technically we should pay this:
Sandra = 35.00
Leanne = 35.00
Jennifer = 35.00
total = 105.00

If we were a "family" then it would have been 70.00.

So I said to the girl:
"We all live in the same house - we are a couple and a child. Can we get the family rate?"
She replies, with a weird look on her face: "I'll have to call the owners."
I said, "You do that".

and we waited....

She comes back with: "We can give you a ten dollar discount, and call it a household membership. You know, since you're not a real family."

We paid 80.00 ( That's with the 10.00 lesbian penalty).

We are most definately a family. We do all the things that opposite sex couples do with their children. Our home operates like a "traditional" home, maybe even better. We all get up every morning together, Leanne goes to school and we go to work. When we get home we eat together and watch tv together, we do things together on the weekends - same the the "real" families in my neighborhood are doing. There is no fighting, no crying, we aren't loading up in the car and heading out to the family therapist. My daughter is happy and she loves us, we communicate well. Jen and I offer different perspectives so Leanne has options if she needs advice. We have a great life. Very unlike our heterosexual marriages were, you know - when we were in real families...

We are a family, a very happy one.


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Sandra

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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 11:48pm

Funny thing about families, families change all the time. But gay and lesbian families don't have to prove anything. Even though we have instances of "divorce" and "separation", we do things a bit more civil. Well, I would like to think so.

Thanks for sharing your blog entry, Sandra.

Hugs!

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 7:43am

I know it doesnt seem like one, but I would definately call it a victory.

 *Hugs ~  Caly

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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 8:27am

Sandra,


That is a pretty good story.

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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 9:04am

One small step for your family.


One giant step for GLBT people everywhere!


Woooooooooo Hoooooooo!

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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 9:08am

That is so cool Daronda :o)

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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 10:58am

That's great, Sandra! Good for you for sticking up for your family. Sometimes the things people say ("since you're not a real family") just blow me away.


Good luck working out! Hugs!


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Wed, 03-08-2006 - 12:46am
Caly, that's great that the zoo did a family membership for you guys!!! We are obviously making progress. Maybe someday we will all be saying "remember when__?"


Sandra

Sandr

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Wed, 03-08-2006 - 12:47am
That's an awesome story! Thanks for sharing. I agree with you about the younger generation being more accepting, times are changing!


Sandra

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Wed, 03-08-2006 - 12:51am

I was pretty happy about it, it wasn't a complete victory in my eyes - but it was something.


The owner came in tonight and introduced himself to us and showed us how to use everything. He knew who we were and was very, very nice, he wasn't from the small town we live in. I think people from a more diverse society - bigger cities - are much more gay friendly.


Then again, I am sore all over - you think he did that to us on purpose?LOL


Sandr

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 3:09pm
LOL! On the $10.00 lesbian penalty. But I think it was a small victory. We got a family pass for our zoo and a family pass for the Indiana State parks and recs. So, victories are coming our way.
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