Parents problem

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Registered: 11-15-2004
Parents problem
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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 9:25am

Have you ever felt as though your parents don't really understand you or your relationship? I've been feeling lately like my parents don't really know me at all. They met my girlfriend when she came to visit me over my break last week, and they seemed to really like her, but I know that they still have a problem with me being gay. I know that it takes time to accept things and adjust, but I really wish that they wouldn't act as though I'm some sort of damaged good. I really love my girlfriend, and I'm so happy that I found someone so wonderful. I wish that they could just be happy for me and accept things as they are. I talked to my girlfriend about it, and she says that I just need to give them time and that they will come around. I realize that I'm probably being impatient and unreasonable, but I feel really alone sometimes. She always points out to me that they thought I was straight my whole life and that this is a big surprise.

I'm just really frustrated. Is anyone else in a similar situation? How do you deal with parental disapproval?

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Registered: 02-04-2005
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:22pm
Awwwwww sweetie, this is a hard and sometimes awkward siruation to be in. The sad thing is, your g/f is right, it
does take time.
You might hhave to try to give the parents a little break while their heads are still spinning a bit. They are trying at least.
That does not help you any right now, I know, but maybe if both sides give a little to each other it will work out quicker.
Talk with them, answer questions.
I am sorry you are going through this emotional roller coaster right now. I hope it smoothes out soon!
Hugs,
Laurie
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Registered: 11-15-2004
Sun, 03-12-2006 - 11:12pm
Thanks for your great advice, and welcome to the board. I hope that you will stick around. I'm looking forward to getting to know you. Hope you had a great weekend!
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Registered: 01-26-2006
Mon, 03-13-2006 - 9:57am

Hey Pink,


I never told my parents about me being a lesbian. They were very old fashion in thier beliefs and they would have never understood. My mom had disowned me for 13 yrs because she didn't approve of my husband at the time. I knew when I was five years old that I was a lesbian. But was I going to tell my parents? NO.

                                          

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Registered: 11-15-2004
Mon, 03-13-2006 - 12:17pm
Thanks for replying to me and for sharing your story with me. I really appreciate your honesty and kindness. It always helps me to know that I'm not alone, and I want you to know that you aren't alone either. I'd love to get to know you better. I don't think we've met before, but I hope that we can become friends. Hope you are having a great day!
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Registered: 01-26-2006
Mon, 03-13-2006 - 10:54pm

Hey Pink,


You are very welcome. Yes we can become friends. I need all the friends

                                          

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