Introducing.... "Question of the Week" !

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Introducing.... "Question of the Week" !
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Mon, 04-24-2006 - 7:48am

Ok, this is one of my first ideas..

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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 10:08am

It's so unfortunate that you and K have to keep yourselves hidden to the extent that you do. I understand though because I've been there and am still there to some extent. It can be a very stressful way to live. The most frustrating part with respect to the kids is that you are a great mom and that's what's most important, but some people just can't look past their own prejudices to see that.


I wish you and K the best of luck as you make your new life together and find ways to come out when you can.


Hugs


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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 10:14am

You have a wonderful attitude about this Sandra. I feel the same way about my DDs as you do about Leanne. I don't want their school and social lives to be jeopardized at all because of who I am. Fortunately, DD1's best friend's mom is a saint about us. She knows about me and Caly and has been incredibly accepting. It's such a relief not to have to hide around her. But, I am very careful about not outing myself to DDs' friends in general. And DD1 is very mature in the way she handles it. She knows that it's not something she should broadcast and has only told two friends, the two whom she can "trust the most" as she said.


Hopefully by the time my DD2 is DD1's age, this will be much less of an issue.


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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 10:32am

To ALL.. Anyone else want to comment on this? Are you ready to be "out"? Why or why not?


Yes and no...There are times and places when I don't even think about whether or not I'm out because it's so much a part of who I am I don't think about talking about it. Don't

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I think 'showing' is not only much easier on the gay person, its also easier on everyone.

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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 11:17pm

Caly, when it come to "showing" I'm not a fan of public displays of affection. It's not because I am ashamed at all, but we are in an era when although times are changing there is still a majority of people that have not addressed this subject with their children. I enjoyed walking arm in arm with Jen in Las Vegas - but to be honest most people would think we were just trying not to get seperated in a crowd.


I don't want to instigate any conversation between parents and their children if the parents haven't thought about how they will answer first. If I was the reason someone had to give a quick explaination to a child that may be a bad explaination due to lack of preparation I would be defeating the purpose I think. By that, I mean that if I do chose to raise awareness(because I think awareness and exposure are key elements to acceptance) through public affection, I want the outcome to be positive.


Ya know?

Sandr

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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 11:20pm

Caly,


You and I think alike!


I love this topic -


thanks for bringing it up.

Sandr

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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 11:51pm

Ting,


It's really tough to do the "right" thing with the kids. It's really bad when they want to have sleepovers and there is only Leanne's room and 1 other bedroom that Jen and I share. I dread it when she says someone is spending the night. One of us sleeps on the couch and I hate it. But like I said before, I don't want anyone asking their parents question that the parents aren't prepared to answer. At Leanne's age (17) her friends aren't going home and talking about it, they just gossip amongst eachother and that's when things become unfair to Leanne. I can't wait until she graduates! LOL


On one hand, I feel like we should be able to live our way in our own home - but that may chase off Leanne's friends from coming back. On the other hand, if kids are never exposed to "people like us" then how will they ever get used to it? It's tough.


Like Caly, I don't like cramming my sexuality down anyones throat. From experience I can say that

Sandr

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Well as I said,

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Glad you like the topic Sandra and Thanks for keeping it going!

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Now here I feel that while I don't want to cram my relationship down someone's throat, I won't Hide who I am either.

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