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| Fri, 05-19-2006 - 2:52am |
Hi everyone,
If you any of you could share stories of early experiences/coming out I would be very appreciative.
I am 21 years old and very confused and overwhelmed with my feelings. I have a boyfriend of 2 years whom I love very dearly, but will soon be ending the relationship because we are moving to different countries for school. He knows of my experiences growing up and my feelings for women more than anyone else, and is very supportive. My parents are not, their church is not, and growing up I was constantly told that homosexuality is evil. I would like to think that I am an open-minded woman, and while I would like to avoid any labels have strong liberal and feminist convictions. I also value my spiritual relationship and beliefs, and am not sure how my feelings for women reconcile these. I do not by any means believe that homosexuality is "wrong" or any more or less valid than other forms of love and sexuality that one may experience.
I tried to discuss these things with a close friend of mine tonight, and was so afraid that I started shaking. I don't know what I am afraid of.
I have no lesbian contacts/mentors and would very much like thoughts or advice from women who have gone through the same struggles and self-discovery. Any thoughts?
Thanks for reading!!

Hi evelynn, welcome to Lesbian Life. I want to apologize for the delay in responses and kind of point out that it may be because you posted this in the Writer's Forum instead of Intros and Announcements (not that there is anything wrong with that - just seems to be more traffic in the upper folders).
Self discovery is a long process. I like to tell people in your position that Rome was not built in a day. You may have strained relations with loved ones along the way, because of thier beliefs and thier convictions...unfortunately there are
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Evelynn welcome to the board!
You have come to the right place for support and ideas on how to go about your journey.
Welcome Evelynn! Glad you found us and asked for support and help.
You do have a lot of things to figure out on your journey to being true to yourself. And, I hope that's what you will continue to do...be true to yourself. That is always a piece of advice that I like to pass along. You deserve to be you, whoever that is, no matter what anyone else thinks or says.
I can't tell you how to reconcile your spiritual beliefs with being homosexual. That's a very personal thing, and it's something you will probably have to work through at some point on your journey. That wasn't an issue with me. I believe in a God who is loving and not fearful. I believe that I am loved no matter who I am. So, I don't believe that being a homosexual is wrong in the eyes of God.
I didn't come out until I was 35, and it was a hard process. Figuring all of this out now while you're young is a good thing. Perhaps getting away and going to school will give you some time to think and process everything.
I hope you will stick around and "talk" with us. And best of luck as you prepare for school.