Love Advice needed

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Love Advice needed
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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 4:58pm

I am desperate need of advice on how not to annoy my girlfriend,lol....
When it is time for my monthly cycle I get so annoying that well I annoy myself...
and while Beth is like baby I love you unconditionally I am thinking she really is thinking *what a freakin Looney !!!*
Lol....
I guess you would say that I am butch in appearence and well a girlie girl inside
where she is femme femme femme and well not as femme when it comes to some things inwardly...
I was seriously wondering if there is like a pill to help PMS and all that ???(Nurse Pam where are you,lol)
Really I don't like this about myself at all...
I blow things way out of porportion....
I over-react....
I get really girlie and cry and well I know some of it is normal...
but I get on my own nerves....
Beth is my mother Teresa :),she even bought me the notebook and told me not to watch it at my time of the month,lol...
so any ideas????
and by the way don't make me cry,lol....

(Things you never would have known about tough ol' Jo)lol.....

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Registered: 02-15-2004
Fri, 05-26-2006 - 5:10pm

Well, Jo, while there is not pill that can take care of PMS, in my opinion, exercise, reducing the amount of caffine that you drink, drinking plenty of water, trying to stay way from sugary stuff, is what I do when pms hits.

When I go through pms, I get very tempermental and I just know that I need to be left alone. I think your honey understands what you go through. When I start getting on my own nerves, I find the time during the day to take a nap. I go to bed when I have to. If you have to take something for cramps, go ahead. Breathing, meditating and just relaxing. Also giving fair warning, when you know your symptoms are about to happen, would be a good thing.

I know sometimes I do, it's only fair to everyone else around me. Like you said, you're only going through the normal feelings of pms and it's no fun for anyone.

I hope some of those suggestions helped.

shakes a friendly, gentle hand

Sebastian

 


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Sebastian


 


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Registered: 04-23-2006
Fri, 05-26-2006 - 6:44pm

Oh Jo


You and Beth seem to be mirroring Kirche and I in more ways then one.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 05-26-2006 - 6:47pm

Hi Sebastian! Good suggestions!


Unfortunately I don't understand what she goes through, I have never had PMS or cramps or the moods and all the glory of being a menstrual woman. *ducks behind the couch to avoid all the objects being hurled at me right now* In my defense, or really to make it even, I have to buy new underwear pretty regularly and lots of stain remover since I never know when it's gonna hit.


I will however bow down to all of her needs or stay away, whichever she prefers. LOL.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 05-26-2006 - 6:51pm

>>>and dont get into major discussions during that time<<<


well said Caly. LOL. Maybe I need to hit TiNG up sometime for a brainstorming session! I really do feel for her (and all of you) that go through this every month. I just wish I knew how to make it better for her.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 05-26-2006 - 6:57pm

Baby I do love you unconditionally! Even if my first choice is not always a chick flick and I don't cry during Extreme Makeover Home Edition, if you only knew how much more I love you because that is you...If you only knew how much I love the way people look at us, thinking I am the girly-girl and you are Ms Macho when in fact ummmmm.....TMI? Out little secret, except for here


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Registered: 04-23-2006
Fri, 05-26-2006 - 7:33pm

I think what makes it work for TiNG and I, is she understands that she can't make it better for me and that I can't help it. So its about accepting it and trying to make the best of it. We joke about it when we can. And because I know she knows I can't help it, I am able to relax more about it when I do get upset and so it doesnt escalate as much as it could otherwise.


And I am sure TiNG will have lots of advice from her perspective too. She will post later or tommorrow I am sure. We have the girls tonight and she is doing bath time at the moment *grin

*hugs Caly pentagram
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Registered: 09-01-2005
Fri, 05-26-2006 - 8:22pm
Well first and foremost I have an amazing future wife....
and well thinking of it right now really...I was never really sensitive ( actually I think I have always been really sensitive )yet was never able or never felt free to show my sensitive side....Beth does truly brings out the best qualities in me even though the crying for no reason thing doesn't seem like a great quality right now.
I was thinking hard today about a tattoo (maybe she knows which one,a secret for now)
I just get really ummm ultra sensitive I guess and well when I cry it hurts/bothers her...not something I want to do at all....
I don't want meds that would mess with my sex drive at all,but I thought maybe there was something maybe even like aniexty meds that maybe would relax me...
I told her today I am going to find a steady doctor very soon...
I deal with way to much pain and sickness over this time of the month
I have an awesome lady I am so thankful for and I never want to give her stress when it is something that well could maybe safely be prevented...
I don't want to change who I am ,yeah I get girlie and she loves that,lol....
I know this is the "better or for worse" stuff and well her and I are both in it for life...we have both had problems and the other has always hung in there like a champ......
I am proud of where we have been,where we are and where we are going as a couple
thanks to everyone thus far....it is great to get people's input ,thank you
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Registered: 08-12-2005
Fri, 05-26-2006 - 11:40pm

Jo, this is so normal a predicament, it seems in a woman-woman relationship....


and while Beth is like baby I love you unconditionally I am thinking she really is thinking *what a freakin Looney !!!*

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Sat, 05-27-2006 - 8:04am

LOL Sheila!


I am 9 years older then TiNG so we keep joking that by the time I am finished going thru menopause she will just be starting and gets to pay me back.

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Registered: 02-15-2004
Sat, 05-27-2006 - 10:43am
Caly, on Tings DD's and puberty - be afraid, be very afraid.

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