Sebastian I have a question...

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Sebastian I have a question...
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Fri, 06-02-2006 - 2:45pm

I don't mean to offend, but as posted before I'm trying to learn my way through understanding my daughter more. So if I post something wrong, please let me know in kind words, don't "yell" at me...


I don't understand what transgender is? Is it a sex change thing and is that something I will have to face in the future? How do you know the difference because I realize not all lesbians have sex changes, but what feelings are different?


Again I'm just trying to learn, I apologize for anything I may ask that is offensive...


blessings

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Fri, 06-02-2006 - 5:15pm

Mickey, Hi and welcome back.


I am certainly going to let Sebastian answer the major part of this question because you are right that only a transgender person can know what it feels like, but I can I hope at least allay some of your fears in saying that not all lesbians are transgender.

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Fri, 06-02-2006 - 10:20pm

Hi Mickey.

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Sat, 06-03-2006 - 2:26am

Hello Mickey, first and foremost, I must thank my two sisters Caly and Pam for answering your questions. I would never yell at anyone that is interested in me and my journey. Pam's explanation is the most correct and accurate. There really isn't more that I can add onto what she has said. I couldn't rightfully identify myself to you as a lesbian, that would have been false and misleading and not to mention very confusing for you.

I chose to be honest about myself through all aspects of my growth levels. First, I am a child of my creator, then I'm a woman, then a lesbian, then a transgender. On my journey, I have made some decisions that do not include body modification, ie. having a phallus surgically attached to my body. I only chose to have my breasts reduced and to take Testosterone. I make sure that before I have made my final decision, that I am aware of the side effects, both positive and negative. This is something, I'm not jumping into blind.

I'm getting the proper guidance and the correct suggestions. I'm going to a place that will guide me through each and every step of my transformation. I have no hestitations about what I'm doing or about to do to myself. It is what I wish to do, to make myself feel whole. While I cannot and will not speak for the entire transgender community, I can only speak for myself.

Please forgive me if I've caused any discomfort or worry, it wasn't my intent. My original intent was to slowly reveal my new identity to the ladies here, but my "cards were tipped" for me and I simply will not run away nor, will I back down. But I choose to remain a member of this lovely group of women. To continue on before I was "outed" by a well meaning person, that I will leave nameless.

So, please if you do have more questions, please feel free to send me an email through my profile.

Thanks,

Sebastian

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Sat, 06-03-2006 - 12:52pm

(((((Sebastian)))))


I hope that everyone reads this particular post above.

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Sat, 06-03-2006 - 1:49pm

Thank you, Pam. I don't know if you know about the fire that happened in my building, while I'm fine and I think that my apartment is ok, I'm not doing so good emotionally or mentally at the moment. I really am trying to hold it together.

Thank you for your peaceful welcoming love and care. I do hope you are doing ok. I really do love being around and helping out when I can.

Thank you for your generosity.

Hugs,

Sebastian

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Sat, 06-03-2006 - 6:17pm
I am not sure what you mean by "outed" SB since you have been open with us since the beginning and did reveal your situation slowly.

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Mon, 06-05-2006 - 8:36am

Oh, Sebastian...Thanks so much for being so open with me. You as well as the other ladies have been a wonderful blessing for me in my time of questions and wanting to understand as much as I can. I love my daughter so much and although I know I will never understand fully the struggles she will face with this, I do want to be there for her and be able to comfort her in some way.


I pray that you all have the support and love of a family because you all appear to be wonderful people with open hearts and geniune compasion for one another. Again I thank you for being kind enough to me to answer my questions honestly.


(((hugs)))

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Mon, 06-05-2006 - 9:08am

Just my nosy me putting my $0.02 in Caly.

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Mon, 06-05-2006 - 9:10am

Mickey, I hope that you will feel free to talk with us any time you have a question or a concern.

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Mon, 06-05-2006 - 12:39pm

Hi Mickey,

I want to welcome you to the board also.
I don't have any input on this subject so like you, I'm learning from Seb and others as well. I do want to say thank you for supporting your kid through her growing up stages. It’s heartbreaking to hear some kids that don’t see any support from their family, so I’m always grateful when I hear more and more from moms and dads that actually love their kids. *smile*

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