Ups and Downs....
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| Thu, 06-08-2006 - 3:56pm |
As you guys know I'm really trying here, but have my days. Well yesterday it was one of those days. DD and I argued a bit and I found myself crying to her because good grief I was unfair and ??? don't even know the other feelings.
She has a friends that she has dated in the past, but is no longer with however remained really good friends. I really like this girl and have always had respect for her. When I first met the friend (while they were dating) I had my feelings that it was more but when I asked they lied. I have REAL issues with being lied too and become very distant with people who have lied to me. Well, they both told me that since DD's coming out they are no longer together but just close supportive friends. They are on the phone long periods of time and I know they are close.
Yesterday I had a melt down and accused them of both making a fool out of me again and went on a tirade. DD and I ended up crying and she's hurt that I have a hard time trusting her, but we both apologized for our short comings and snuggled watching a movie. While I was sitting there I realized that I really like her friend, but sometimes find myself jealous of their closeness, does this make sense?
Thanks for letting me vent...
Blessings


It makes sense to me Mickey.
*hugs*
Orientation is a push button issue, and one never ever knows what reaction will come when the revelation finally comes to light. I think back now...
our children are so much a focal point of our lives, and it's hard at times to step back a bit and realise as they move toward adulthood, so does a move to find their way towards independence. At times they will push wildly outward; at other times they will retreat back toward us. No matter who we are, personal space is an essential element of well being... for us, for them.
I wouldn't beat yourself up for feeing envious, what matters is you obviously know enough to contemplate this, and how you should move forward. For your daughter, she's made a hell of a revelation, and with this is a period of adjustment, on top of all the usual adolescent adjustments...
Where do you go
When the wind doesn't blow
Are you still like the trees
Only bend with a breeze
~
worlds undone
(((Hugs Hon))))
C >^. A .
I'm sure this is a mom thing Mickey.
Pieces of My Life
Mickey, I know how you feel, teenagers are tough. Mine, like nelle said - is close one day and distant the next. She tells her stupid, and I mean literally stupid, boyfriend everything and I get half stories. She said that's not lying if she just leaves stuff out.
Just hang in there, you are doing a great job!
As for the friend, when they decide the true nature of their relationship I am sure you will be the first to know. It seems you and your daughter are still close. Trust her. I know you are upset that she lied the first time, but really, what they do with their time isn't really our business in a way. I am sure my daughter is sexually active, I don't really want to hear about it. So if your daughter and her friend are still "dating" or just friends, really is irrelevant.
Sandr
I agree after stewing a few days that it's just my motherly ambilical chord that needs to be loosened, lol. My son will be joining the military in August then leaving after graduation next May, this breaks my heart. Well I think I've been using Krys to be my life preserver to hang on too, although unfairly.
I realize she is growing and there will be things in her life that she won't share with me as it is with all children and their mothers, but it's tough for me.
I Thank you ladies for being such great support and once again being straightforward and honest.
blessings