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Registered: 01-09-2005
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Thu, 06-08-2006 - 4:23pm

Been a very long time since I have been at the boards, so many new faces, so much has changed. I come back here knowing this is a great group of people that I have enjoyed so much in the past.

 

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Registered: 11-16-2005
In reply to: falatidoe
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 4:32pm

((((((((Lea)))))))) It's so good to "see" you again. I just wish it were under better circumstances. I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. I know this must be hard on everyone. Divorce laws vary from state to state, so your lawyer would know best about when your STBX needs to give you back what he took from the house.

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Registered: 01-09-2005
In reply to: falatidoe
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 4:58pm

Hi Ting, It is good to see you too.

 

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Registered: 11-16-2005
In reply to: falatidoe
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 5:17pm

I totally understand your having to be away from the board, Lea. I had to do the same thing when I went through my divorce. I hope that it will all be over really soon, so you can move on with your life.


Many Hugs...


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Registered: 05-31-2006
In reply to: falatidoe
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 5:57pm
I personally would listen to your lawyer.Hopefully you have a good lawyer and well he went to school for this so he probably knows best,maybe going to his commander could hurt you in some way and well if all else fails you go to court and well you don't get your things back and all other tries fail then you could try that afterwards....best of luck to you ,Jo

 

 

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Registered: 04-23-2006
In reply to: falatidoe
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 6:59pm
Lea this is just my personal advice and I know that some of the things you lost may be very special to you but try to remember they are just "things".

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Registered: 09-29-2003
In reply to: falatidoe
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 11:24pm

((((((Lea)))))))) Sorry your going through this.. I have to agree with the others.. Let your Lawyer advise you and go with what he or she whatever says.. Also as Caly said Yes these things are important to you but they are just things.. I know how it feels about the things he took.. the things he says... the verbal abuse... as well as mental.. I went through all that and physical as well. My Ex


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Registered: 03-30-2003
In reply to: falatidoe
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 11:34pm

(((((Lea)))))


My first instinct is to say go to his commanding officer.

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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: falatidoe
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 11:58pm

Lea,


It's so nice to see you - I wish it wasn't like this for you. I am sorry. I don't have any advice other than what the other girls have already said. Divorce is hard. Is you older son still home with you?


Hang in there, it will be over before you know it and you can move on with your life - email me anytime if you need to talk and don't feel safe posting


Huge hugs,

Sandr

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Registered: 01-30-2005
In reply to: falatidoe
Sat, 06-10-2006 - 10:35am

Hi Lea,


I am sorry you are having such a hard time right now.

Carol,  In love with the most beautiful woman in the world.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: falatidoe
Sat, 06-10-2006 - 11:34am

Hi Lea.


God, I am having flashbacks. (((((((((((hugs))))))))))))). I also had to go MIA from the boards for similar reasons, I also lost many valuable things I had long before I was married, including family heirlooms that had been in my family for many many generations. I lost so much, I would not wish that on anyone in the world girl.


I have to say that I agree with Carol. Let your attorney go to his commander. I could definitely see someone as vengeful as your STBX making your life a hell of a lot harder if you try going to his commander on your own. Perhaps you may get your things back, but more probable you won't. I don't know what the laws are in Fl, I am sure you would have to prove that the things he took were in fact yours before you were married to him, which could be difficult. Especially if he already has these things in his posession.


I am also sorry to hear how he is using the kids. I think that, above all, is one of the most malicious and vindictive thing any human could ever do. It really says alot about your STBX, but unfortunately as Pam pointed out - fair or not you are the bad guy right now. I know the feeling too well, like it was yesterday.


God I feel for you. Hang in there though. You have so much support here, and things will get better I promise.

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