Question of the Week June 19th

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Question of the Week June 19th
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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 7:23pm

Back in May one of our QoTW discussions brought up this comment by me and response by Sandra


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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 06-21-2006 - 10:47am

For me personally, it is scary and lonely. I don't mean lonely in regard to romantic relationships - I mean lonely in an across the board scale. And just when I think that I have the hang in dealing with it, I realize that I don't have a clue. I haven't any real answers- just prayers every night. I take it day by day.

Take care,

-firebird-

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Wed, 06-21-2006 - 7:09pm

I understand what you mean Rj.

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Registered: 01-30-2005
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 6:42am

I look at this in this way:

Carol,  In love with the most beautiful woman in the world.

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 7:16am

Thats Cool Carol!


Sort of the way K and I are.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 1:45pm

we could all just "live and let live"

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it must be that new hampshire's air in your system.
tell her to wait a few more years, you're get over it. ;-)

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Thu, 06-22-2006 - 7:30pm
ROFL!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:47pm

Well, my answer might be a bit different from the rest here in that I do not identify as a Lesbian, but a Queer Femme (High Femme suits me better, but you get the jist) -

From a heterosexual's point of view, I automatically get lumped in with Lesbians and such, and thats standard and fine - it doesnt change how I identify, but for me being Queer and out in society is huge. To look at me, you cant "tell" Im gay, I dont sport rainbows - but Im always upfront and will always let people know. In all of my job situations, they knew from day one as I always keep a picture of my girlfriend and I on the desk. I am never closeted under any circumstances.

I have experienced my share of discrimination, my share of harassment (and yes, sexual) in the workplace and other situations - and as a woman - Ive received tons of that anyway. As a queer woman, I experience a bit more, but I handle it. Its something that unfortunately Ive become used to handling.

Ive also unfortunately experienced alot of drama from the Lesbian community with regards to discriminiation on how I identify and who I choose to be in a relationship with (Butches) - its been really saddening, frustrating, miserable really.

Point is, I live a happy life - Im accepted by family, friends, coworkers and such - unfortunately, I face tons of discrimination from my own community.

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Mon, 06-26-2006 - 9:16am

Thanks for posting, Alisha. I was sad to read this part of your post:


"Ive also unfortunately experienced alot of drama from the Lesbian community with regards to discriminiation on how I identify and who I choose to be in a relationship with (Butches) - its been really saddening, frustrating, miserable really."


We're the last community that should be discriminating against itself. For a long time I felt like an "imposter" when I first came out to myself. I lived the life of a heterosexual for 35 years and figured I wasn't a "true" lesbian because of that. I don't feel that way anymore.


I'm sorry you've had to face this.


Hugs!


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Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 06-26-2006 - 9:50am
My approach is just to go about living my life.

Kim
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Registered: 04-23-2006
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 7:02am

Thanks for your reply Kim!


I agree that really all I want to do is live naturally, without hiding who I am but not flaunting it either. Its not necessary for us either.

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