((((Thanks Ting)))) Your right... I got great advice and caring support as always.. from this spot and the wonderful people here.. Be my self.. Yeah thats good advice also.. After all... I am *me.. I don't want them to know a not me..LOL. I want them to just be themselves so why not I should do the same?.. ((((Hugs Hon)))
Oh, Cat! I'm so sorry that you're in such a quagmire, hon. There's probably not a lot I can say that would be of any use whatsoever - there are many others here who understand the emotional turmoil far more than I could (not having kids of my own, and all)...
But at the very least, I can send you giant hugs and send a million angels your way to comfort and guide you.
Awwwww Thanks ((((((LOU)))))and of course (((((((Nony)))))).. Those angels will bring me peace within I am sure and direction.. Heck a bunch of angels are already working right here on this Board..*Smiles
Hi Cat, It's me, Sandy.... (See? I ain't dead--lol!) I was sitting with my Lori tonite as she was reading the board and she and I read your post. It brought tears to my eyes because you described so well what I feel with my kids now that they are living with their dad. Although our situations are different--some of the feelings involved are the same. When the kids first went to their dads in the late summer of 2004, it was supposed to be for a visit. Then I came home one night from work and there was this message from my ex stating that the kids weren't coming home--they wanted to live with him and his wife in their new house in another city. I was dumbfounded---hurt, shocked, felt betrayed and mostly this incredible sense of loss which STILL pangs me from time to time!! The hardest part to this day is not only the not being in their day to day lives but this sense of adjustment to that, of not being necessary when I once felt like I was the center of their world! All the little things that define me as "Mom"....doing the things Moms are supposed to do like school shopping, interviews, tucking them in at night, worrying about where they are and who they are with, buying their favorite foods at the grocery store etc. When they come visit now it is bittersweet---WONDERFUL to have them with me again, but also the knowing that "home" for them is no longer under the same roof. There is a tentativeness--almost like they feel like guests here when in my heart they BELONG with me! It has been a HUGE adjustment for all of us! Even now, my youngest, Jenn just told me via email that she just got her first job!! I am SOOOO proud of her but with my oldest, I was THERE to celebrate that milestone with her! The worst part is that my ex and his wife are leaving for a trip to the States that same day--they are leaving early and my Jenn is so nervous about having to walk--being unfamiliar with the length of time it will take and stressed because she's never worked before. I want to be there to support her but I don't have a car right now either so it's not possible. Still, i just feel like I am missing out on so much so I can sure empathize with how you are feeling and I wanted to send my hugs and offer of emailing if you want to talk. My email is goodnitemoon59@aol.com And by the way, Lori is here with me in Canada on an extended visit and she says hi and sends her hugs too! Warm and toasty hugs, Sandy
I am trying to find a place to jump in here and just say hi. I haven't been around fro quite a long time, but was in the neighborhood and decided to pop my head in and say hello. I couldn't really find someplace appropriate, so here I am. I don't know what this post is about, but I do hope I didn't step on anyone's fragile toes. Again, hello everyone and I will try not to be such a stranger. See ya.
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((((Thanks Ting)))) Your right... I got great advice and caring support as always.. from this spot and the wonderful people here.. Be my self.. Yeah thats good advice also.. After all... I am *me.. I don't want them to know a not me..LOL. I want them to just be themselves so why not I should do the same?.. ((((Hugs Hon)))
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Jordan is still here and eating us out of house and home LOL.
Oh, Cat! I'm so sorry that you're in such a quagmire, hon. There's probably not a lot I can say that would be of any use whatsoever - there are many others here who understand the emotional turmoil far more than I could (not having kids of my own, and all)...
But at the very least, I can send you giant hugs and send a million angels your way to comfort and guide you.
Awwwww Thanks ((((((LOU)))))and of course (((((((Nony)))))).. Those angels will bring me peace within I am sure and direction.. Heck a bunch of angels are already working right here on this Board..*Smiles
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It's me, Sandy.... (See? I ain't dead--lol!) I was sitting with my Lori tonite as she was reading the board and she and I read your post. It brought tears to my eyes because you described so well what I feel with my kids now that they are living with their dad. Although our situations are different--some of the feelings involved are the same.
When the kids first went to their dads in the late summer of 2004, it was supposed to be for a visit. Then I came home one night from work and there was this message from my ex stating that the kids weren't coming home--they wanted to live with him and his wife in their new house in another city. I was dumbfounded---hurt, shocked, felt betrayed and mostly this incredible sense of loss which STILL pangs me from time to time!! The hardest part to this day is not only the not being in their day to day lives but this sense of adjustment to that, of not being necessary when I once felt like I was the center of their world! All the little things that define me as "Mom"....doing the things Moms are supposed to do like school shopping, interviews, tucking them in at night, worrying about where they are and who they are with, buying their favorite foods at the grocery store etc. When they come visit now it is bittersweet---WONDERFUL to have them with me again, but also the knowing that "home" for them is no longer under the same roof. There is a tentativeness--almost like they feel like guests here when in my heart they BELONG with me! It has been a HUGE adjustment for all of us!
Even now, my youngest, Jenn just told me via email that she just got her first job!! I am SOOOO proud of her but with my oldest, I was THERE to celebrate that milestone with her! The worst part is that my ex and his wife are leaving for a trip to the States that same day--they are leaving early and my Jenn is so nervous about having to walk--being unfamiliar with the length of time it will take and stressed because she's never worked before. I want to be there to support her but I don't have a car right now either so it's not possible. Still, i just feel like I am missing out on so much so I can sure empathize with how you are feeling and I wanted to send my hugs and offer of emailing if you want to talk. My email is goodnitemoon59@aol.com
And by the way, Lori is here with me in Canada on an extended visit and she says hi and sends her hugs too! Warm and toasty hugs, Sandy
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I am trying to find a place to jump in here and just say hi. I haven't been around fro quite a long time, but was in the neighborhood and decided to pop my head in and say hello. I couldn't really find someplace appropriate, so here I am. I don't know what this post is about, but I do hope I didn't step on anyone's fragile toes. Again, hello everyone and I will try not to be such a stranger. See ya.
TK! Good to see you!
You can of course post to any thread, but remember too you can start a thread just to say Hi any time you want.
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OOOCHIE OUCHIE.. My Toes-ies... LOL.. Just Kiddin of course.. Welcome back TK... Seems I remember ya but then not quite strongly....
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