Girls...

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Registered: 07-14-2006
Girls...
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Fri, 07-14-2006 - 9:40pm

So my girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We are both EARLY twenties, and we dont have sex! (ever). She is just not interested. Which leaves me, alone. (I know cheating is not the problem). This has been going on for 1 1/2 years now. I just dont know what to do or how to feel. I am too young to be dealing with this, but we have invested too much time in each other to just walk away. We have talked (well i have) and no changes... I dont know what i am expecting by typing this, but if you have any thoughts please... shoot!

Thanks,

Kinya0316

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In reply to: kinya0316
Sat, 07-15-2006 - 12:32am

Hi Kinya and Welcome to Lesbian Life.

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Registered: 06-23-2006
In reply to: kinya0316
Sat, 07-15-2006 - 6:39am

Hi Kinya,

been there done that got the t-shirt:). We have been together 4 years, my partner is in her mid 20's i'm just into my 30's. Along the way at various points this has happened to us too...believe me it isn't uncommon;). There is always some underlying reason for it,and like Pam said, talking is absolutely vital! Like your partner, i can sometimes not know exactly how to voice how i feel sometimes which i'm sure is the initial problem.
My partner persists in getting me to talk things through, and i'm always glad she does:).

Although we've been through this a few times, it does eventually work out with some work and things do get back to the way they should be...so don't worry too much:).

We just got married and things are working out great.

Maybe others would disagree with all my blurb,but it's just what i've experienced;).

Feel free to talk to me anytime if i can be of any help...or not if you think i can't hehe;)

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Registered: 09-29-2003
In reply to: kinya0316
Sun, 07-16-2006 - 12:05am
All I can say is either Talk Talk Talk.. Or perhaps look into a

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Sun, 07-16-2006 - 8:00am

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Hi Kinya!

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Mon, 07-17-2006 - 9:57am

Welcom, Kinya! You've gotten great advice from everyone so far. I agree that couples counseling might help. It's normal for our libidos to change depending on many factors, but it sounds like your g/f might need to seek medical advice to make sure nothing physiological or psychological

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