Need some advice - kinda long, sorry!

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Need some advice - kinda long, sorry!
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Wed, 07-26-2006 - 12:05pm

First off i would like to say hey to you ladies, it has been a long time since i posted.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 07-26-2006 - 7:46pm

First off, welcome back!!! It has been too long.


You are not being selfish at all.


I will admit though, not knowing your gf's history with money and lies and all (or maybe you did post about it

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Thu, 07-27-2006 - 7:30am

Hi there!


Nothing wrong with being cautious when it comes to money.

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Thu, 07-27-2006 - 11:22am

Hi Babystr! It's great to see you back!


You've definitely got a lot on your plate to consider. Sounds like in addition to wanting to move forward with your life with g/f you're also

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 07-27-2006 - 1:58pm

My advice is to see a financial lawyer. If you can’t afford one, look in the yellow pages or your state website for your local bar association for free advise and/or pro bono cases. Especially with money and house play into this relationship, you need legal advice on where you stands if the relationship goes sour.

My opinion is to work from the ground up. Talk with her about your concerns and then make a plan together. Start by opening an account where you both will contribute into the bank equally and at the end of the year, see how much you have in the bank and decide on how to spend it. Or you can save half and spend half of the money,it's up to you two. This little act of opening an account in both names will show you two how much commitment and respect you have for each other. This action will at least booster each other confidence in money management and you can actually see if a set goal is accomplished or need work in. Beside another year of not moving to a new place or putting her name on the current house shouldn’t make a difference since you two been together like this for the past two years. The main point is you two are together and actually working on your relationship. Good Luck and keep us posted on how everything goes.

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Thu, 07-27-2006 - 11:24pm
Hi ((((((babystr))))) Not going to add any thing to what has already been given.. The other's have given some good ideas...

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Fri, 07-28-2006 - 8:42am
Hold onto the equity.

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 9:16pm
Do not feel guilty at all. You look out for your kids. You can make it so that what is yours goes to your kids or set up a trust fund for them.
Your kids should always come first and you should not be made to feel guilty about it.
Whenever I do not feel comfortable inside about a decision then I do not make the decision. Not until I have a peace inside about it.
I hope this finds you doing well otherwise. Nice to see you again!
Hugs,
Laurie
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Registered: 09-29-2003
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 9:26pm
(((((((((((((Laurie)))))))))))))) Great to see ya post.. Hope you are doing well and (((Sheila)))) and your ((((Mom)))) and all your (((((family))))..
((((((((Hugs Hon)))))))


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Registered: 06-24-2003
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 12:13am
Thanks Cat! Nice to hear from you. It has been to long. I have been to your blog to catch up.
I hope things are going alright for you today and I miss talking with you...
Hugs,
Laurie
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