UGH! Co-workers!
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| Fri, 09-22-2006 - 4:05am |
I'm not sure if any of you read the bit where I posted about one of my co-workers who is very critical of everyone, always running and telling the bosses what we did and shouldn't or didn't do and shouldn't...? She can be very hard to get along with but I have always respected her as a good worker and we have had our days where we can get along just fine.
Anyway, at morning tea she starts into me about not cleaning dogs water containers. I ALWAYS clean them. She says she has been waterblasting them all morning because none of them were clean. I thought GRRRR but let it go over my head. Next day I am in the kennels by myself and I get to cleaning this area. Waterblaster doesnt go. It hasnt even been plugged in from when we moved it 2 days ago. 6 water containers are clean. 10 needed cleaning! I said to my boss I think she has a cheek going on about what I didn't do when it would appear she hasnt even plugged the water blaster in.
She starts on at me while I am on my days off and the boss turns around and tells her she has no room to criticise... mentions that the water blaster hasnt been plugged in for 2 days. Co worker insists she used it and unplugged it again.
So today at morning tea she has a go at me again. "Why did you say I hadnt waterblasted?" I told her I said it appeared the waterblaster hadnt been plugged in. She insisted I KNEW she had waterblasted- but no, I was busy in another area and I had no idea what she had and hadnt done. I apologised if I had got it wrong and said it was probably a misunderstanding. Water containers are getting dirty quickly because of more sediment than usual in the water supply (artesian)... she accused me of calling her a liar once again, said I was nothing but a stirrer, said she couldn't stand the sight of me etc until one of the other workers told her she has said enough.
I spoke to her after work and said once again I was sorry if I had got it wrong. I told her the thing about running to the boss about everything is you are going to have to expect to be on the receiving end yourself sometimes... she said it's too late to apologise, the damage has already been done. She has handed in her notice and she hopes I am happy now.
Well no, I am not happy. I think she is being very childish over all this. Yes, I should have got my facts straight before I opened my mouth, but we all make mistakes don't we?
I think she is going to work out 2 weeks notice and make my working days as awful as she can manage.
It will be a shame to lose her over this because she is a good, reliable worker. Just hard to get along with. I can't help her reaction though....


Sorry about all of this Ven.
Since she is leaving anyway (and it was her choice, you didn't get her fired) Just be as nice as you can to her, and let the chips fall where they may. Your boss will appreciate it I know.
*hugs Caly
You shouldn't feel an iota of guilt over this. Miscommunication happens. Sounds like you handled it professionally and hopefully someone who is a hard worker AND pleasant to be around will be hired to replace her. You gotta look out for you, and your hard work is recognized and will pay off I'm sure. Too bad that she burned some bridges.
I hope you can get through the next two weeks without too much grief from her!
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Hey Ven!
Sorry you're going through this, it seems to me that this young lady doesn't understand how thorough of a worker that you are and she's was just trying to get you fired.
I think you handled the situation well, if it were me, I would have just ignored her and let her hang herself.
It's usually those that try to make us look bad, by setting us up by sabotaging the work area, or some other stupid manuver. Or try to make us feel guilty because of their incompetence. You only had to apologize once and that was it. She didn't accept your apology, so just let it be. I don't see where you made a mistake.
This ex-co-worker of yours will pull the same game on someone else, but when she does it, the party that she offended will not be so apologetic and non-violent about it.
Btw, how are you enjoying the beginning of your Spring? lol!
Hang in there, you did nothing wrong.
Hugs!
Sebastian
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Sebastian
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She seems to be able to dish it out but not able to take it back, huh?
Let her go. You appologized, she is the one with a problem.
Take care,
Hugs,
Laurie
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Don't want to step over bounds here, so here is my two cents take it or leave it.
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halo
This child, er, woman? is nothing but a brown-nosing martyring bully who thinks she is better than she is.
In my history of dealing with people like this, I've always pissed them off. Only because I acted like their actions did not get to me. That's what they want, you know? Reaction, conflict, anything for attention.
I am so happy for you and your co-workers that your workplace will be a lot more peaceful from now on. She's someone else's problem, gawd help them.
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halo
thanks for the input everyone.
I do feel bad about this, because I should have spoken to M before I said anything to the boss. It would have saved a lot of grief.
I'm not generally the kind of person who says things behind someone's back. In fact, I rarely say anything at all just do what's not done myself and save us all some stress.
I know a lot of the workers are relieved to see her go. In fact, one who left because of her may even consider coming back.
I think she is going to continue to work part time, but only in the office.
Saturday went ok, it's school holidays here at the moment, a 2 week break between term 3 and term 4. This means the kennels are really busy - we are expecting up to 180 dogs so we all just have to go about what we are doing, no time to worry about what anyone else is doing anyway.
I think I have 24 dogs on my bath list for tomorrow. That is going to take my whole working day and unless I am assigned an assistant, I will be pushing to finish on time. Will keep me well and truly out of M's way, however!