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from relationship to friends
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Tue, 10-10-2006 - 6:52pm

I had a coffee with Nat yesterday. It was nice. We chatted about our kids, my job, Sue, her (nat's) new boyfriend, the trip he is taking her on next month.... a nice friendly chat. It felt good.

This is probably the first time we have been able to do this without bringing up anything from the relationship we had together. Finally all the bitterness, anger, jealousy, accusations, hurt... it seems to be behind us at last.

I think when I first started seeing Sue, it was too soon after i broke up with nat. She started seeing a guy out of jealousy - tried to make that into something it wasnt and was constantly throwing it in my face. She was also trying to make me feel bad about my relationship with Sue, leaving her and the kids stuck for money, stuck for food, stuck for transportation.... she got engaged to the guy but he called it all off a few days later.
Then turned to (on?) me until I broke up with Sue... we all took time out from each other and from that worked out what we wanted from each other and for ourselves.
She has found herself a new guy, seems happy enough with him. She is happy for Sue and I, isn't trying to guilt me into doing things for her and I am thinking that maybe I will be able to salvage some sort of friendship from this after all.
I am finding it hard that I have been replaced in her kid's lives... hardly see the kids anymore. But then again, they are always in trouble... 15year old son dropped out of school and spends his days on the xbox, 13 year old daughter drinks, smokes, has sex... almost 12 year old son has the emotional capacity of a 4 year old. Yeah I miss them but it's also nice to know they are no longer my problem!!


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Registered: 04-23-2006
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 8:08pm

Hi Ven!


Thanks for updating us. I am glad things seemed to have worked out for you all.

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