How to get her

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Registered: 12-14-2006
How to get her
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Thu, 12-14-2006 - 10:00pm
Hey girls,
New to this site, so firstly hi to you all!
Just wondering if anyone can give me some advice .. same old story that you hear all the time really .. I really like this girl, (i know shes gay) and we have nearly got together a few times (under the influence of a few drinks although), we constantly flirt but I'm just not that sure that she wants to take it any further. She's rubbish at saying how shes feeling so don't think she would ever tell me anyway. I really want to be with her, what to do? How to get her? How to let her know that I'm keen?
Any advice greatly appreciated.
Thanks girls!
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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: xxflirtyxx
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 10:54pm

"How to GET her" ? What is she, a toy ? A Bag of groceries? A piece of *ss ?

Talk to her, ask her what her Interests are, what she does with her free time, where she likes to hang out. If it's most likely a bar, might as well go for the last description of her.Altho that's not say all women that hang in bars are just looking to be picked up, get laid. If you want quality people, go to quality places. But above all, just Relax, be yourself. If she cannot appreciate that...and Sober, I'd look elsewhere.

Designergrl47

"Thoughts are things! Think Good ones!"

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Registered: 04-23-2006
In reply to: xxflirtyxx
Fri, 12-15-2006 - 6:47am

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Hi Flirty,


Glad you found us!

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Registered: 11-16-2005
In reply to: xxflirtyxx
Fri, 12-15-2006 - 10:28am

Welcome, Flirty! I don't have too much advice to add. I agree with striking up a conversation with her about your interests and then finding something to do with her outside of the bar scene. If there's an attraction and definite chemistry, I'd say your friendship will likely turn into something more.


I've met my SO's in this way but don't have a whole lot of experience, so I don't have much to offer beyond that.


Good luck!


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Registered: 12-27-2006
In reply to: xxflirtyxx
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 11:32am

Hi there! I guess my answer will be a little different then the others you have received. If you already have a friendship...then why not just go for it! I don't know if you are talking about sex or just fooling around for a while but "make the move". Of course there is no guarentee that she will not be freaked out about it but why hold back what you feel. If you say she dosen't like to talk about her feelings...then talking about yours toward her will probably just make her want to run.

If there is a time that you two are together...drinking or not...just wait for the right moment and kiss her. Take it from there. You will know more in one moment of kissing her then you will know in hours of conversation. A connection may be there or not...but you will surely know. I talk from experience....I took a chance and we were together for a long time.