Do you ever get crushes on...

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Do you ever get crushes on...
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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 2:28pm

Lesbian women in Authoritative positions in your life ? Just a funny topic, I know. But I wondered if I am the only one.?
In a couple of "recovering places/institutes" as well as the place I am living at now...I seem to develop secret crushes on these women. I'll bet Freud would have a field day with this,but ahhhh, the memories. (smile) One was a very jock-ish soft butch woman who was a counselor...she could play a mean game of basketball. Another was a total butch, weekend house manager at a recovery house I lived in years ago. Turns out that she overstepped her boundaries with a few women after I left and became quite abusive with her new partner. Phew! Narrowly missed that one !

Another was a counselor that told me to try and have a Intimate but non-sexual relationship with a str8 woman and it would do a lot for my own self-healing.

I have a case manager here that is really cute, partnered and , ahhhhhh, I can dream can't I ? And no, I have never thought about crossing any inappropriate boundaries.

Just wondering ...any of this happened to you?

Designergrl47(Brandy)

"Thoughts are things! Think Good ones!"

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Registered: 11-10-2006
Sat, 01-20-2007 - 8:07am

Hey- I'm not trying to be a "downer" here but what you described sounds like what I experienced once with a therapist. She was married too. And, she admitted to being attracted to me. I'll skip the details but in the end, I was the one left holding the bag so to speak. After her, I needed therapy for what I went through with her. It was painful and not a good experience at all.

I hope you seek therapy elsewhere and are very cautious with your heart.

Take care.

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Sat, 01-20-2007 - 11:26am

Michellelynn,


First, welcome to the board, and I hope we can be of some help to you. I agree with the others. Your counselor is practicing unethical behavior and is way overstepping the boundaries of a professional client/therapist relationship. She is putting her job in jeopardy, no matter how right it feels to both of you.


I would seriously consider finding another counselor.


Good luck to you.


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Registered: 04-13-2002
Sat, 01-20-2007 - 3:08pm

Hey Michelle,


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