new to relationship= need sex advice

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Registered: 01-06-2007
new to relationship= need sex advice
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Sat, 01-06-2007 - 6:41pm
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I have just started my first relationship with an amazing girl. She has been totally patient, understanding, and supportive. The problem is I don't know what I am supposed to do sexually in the relationship. She is not pushing or forcing anything, which is great, but I am so nervous about pleasing her and doing what she likes that I can't take that next step. What exactly am I supposed to do to sexually please her? I don't know what all is involved in lesbian sex and how to do whatever it is to please her. Please help!!!!!
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Registered: 04-23-2006
Sat, 01-06-2007 - 8:28pm

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I am glad you found the board! Advice, support and friendship is what we are all about.

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Registered: 09-05-2006
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 9:22pm

Hello, and Welcome to Lesbian life.........


Caly gave you some wonderful advice and I can only emphasize what she has said and that is go with the flow and trust your instincts. I was married for twenty years (straight) when my partner and I first got together I was actually the one who seduced her. She has been a lesbian all her life and I was very nervous mind you but I rented us a motel room and had our favorite cd, I had a sexy new outfit just for her. We went to

Brenda

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 3:30pm

Welcome to the group! You've gotten some great advice so far. Reading her cues and talking about what makes her feel good and what makes you feel good is the best way to start in my opinion. Once you do that and start exploring, you will know what to do. ;-)


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Registered: 12-27-2006
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 4:47pm

Hey there,

I can imagine what is going through your head right now but don't pressure yourself. I was straight all my life and the first "relationship" that I had was with a women who also was straight. Confusing but true. Although, neither of us had any experience with "lesbian" sex, the first time we were together was the most amazing time of our whole relationship. Not because everything was perfect but because we were exploring and learning together. We took it very slow and just made sure that the other person was confortable with each move that we made. Some words were spoken but it was mostly just a "sense" that we each had. Just remember to take each step slowly so that you can enjoy it and also really get a sense of what she enjoys. You will find that a big part of being with a women is how wonderful YOU can make HER feel. Don't worry about if you make her feel good because if there are true deep emotions...then everything will feel good to both of you.

Hope this helps a bit.