HELP ME!!!!!

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Registered: 01-07-2007
HELP ME!!!!!
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Sun, 01-07-2007 - 2:18pm
ok. well there is this girl that i think is super HOT!! and she is. She isn't bi or a les, can anyone help me in how I could get her to makeout and go further with me!!!! PLESAE HELP ME!!!!

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Registered: 02-15-2004
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 9:26pm

I have one question for you, would you like to be used like that? I mean, would you allow someone to have sex with you, just because you're attractive? Of course your boyfriend wouldn't mind, he probably thinks it's hot for you to have sex with another girl.

If you don't want to be seen as a stalker, then tell her what you're thinking. See what her reaction is. If she says yes, and when you do it, what then? Will you then be satisfied that you've used another human being?

Take your time and think about all that was suggested, then you make up your own mind.

Sebastian

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Registered: 11-16-2005
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 12:40pm

I'm not sure what other advice I can give you at this point. Sebastian and Caly made some excellent points, and I would definitely keep them in mind when making your decision.


I suspect that most, if not all, of us wouldn't advocate having a fling; experimenting, yes, if both parties are willing and understand that's what it is. I guess that's the biggest red flag I see. Even if your b/f is ok with it, what if he changes his mind if/when you actually pursue her? Are you willing to risk that?


Good luck to you!


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Registered: 01-11-2007
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 4:09pm
I can tell you first hand that this can ruin a friendship. My first experience with a girl was in college and started off with a sleepover between friends. She rolled over in bed and said, "what would you do if I kissed you?" Long story short, after attempting to be in a relationship with this girl, she decided that this lifestyle was not for her. I was so hurt! Even if this girl crush of yours doesn't like girls or doesn't know she likes girls, you could still cause her some pain by doing her like that. How do you know what feelings are going to be involved? You can't say that it will strictly be a sex thing, can you? That would be impossible. My ex and I have remained friends, but our relationship has never been the same since. It's been almost 10 years and it's still a sore spot. So speaking from experience, it can be a beautiful thing to find yourself, but consider the cost before you go there. Good luck!
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Registered: 01-07-2007
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 8:31pm
thank you for all the adive u have given me. it has helped me ALOT. i would start to feel guilty if i just used her, but we still r friends.
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Registered: 01-07-2007
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 8:31pm
o yes, i no that would hurt or scare her deep down inside. I'm sorry that did not work out....i just think im having a hormones problem, my hormones are going crazy. but that is true there will always be conequences to our actions.

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