Worried and Happy at the same time?

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Registered: 01-03-2003
Worried and Happy at the same time?
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Mon, 01-08-2007 - 10:14pm
Hi ladies. I have been seeing my girlfriend for almost 4 months. She is out of a 5 year relationship and says she wants to take things slow, but likes me and wants to date. I'm ok with not pressuring and allowing things to transpire as they do. BUT, I get mixed signals when we are together from when we are apart. She says she likes me and is really into me..although we haven't had sex...but there are times when we go 2 or 3 days without talking and it's been a week since we've seen each other. My interpretation of a girlfriend is someone that you communicate with each day and usually see more than once a week. There are NO pressing committments that prevent us from seeing each other...So, I let my mind wonder and worry that maybe she is having second thoughts or considering getting back with her ex.
My friend says I shouldn't have to worry like that. She says if it is a good relationship that I should enjoy being happy and not letting my mind wonder. I think it's just normal insecurities. I haven't done this dating thing in 20 years and its all changed from when I was a teen. SO..is it normal to be insecure in a new relationship or am I reading too much into things? Is it "normal" to go a week without seeing each other or 3 days without speaking? Or should I be worried?
I don't want to seem like a stalker by calling or emailing too much..so I am just sitting back waiting....and wondering.
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Registered: 04-23-2006
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 7:28am

Hi DW! thwelcome2blue.jpg


Glad you found the board!


Sounds to me like there may be insecurites on both sides.

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